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There's something genuinely complicated about trying to prove you're serious through a screen 💻
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And on the other hand… I've come to believe that sincerity still finds a way to surface, even through all that digital noise. It just takes longer. And it takes both people actually wanting to find it.

The difficulty is real. I won't pretend otherwise. There's no handshake, no eye contact, no moment where you can feel whether someone's energy matches their words. Everything is delayed, edited, and filtered through whatever mood the other person was in when they typed that message. It genuinely is harder to build trust this way. Anyone who says otherwise probably hasn't tried hard enough 🙈

But here's what I keep coming back to: difficulty is not impossibility. Not even close.

Seriousness of intention isn't a single gesture — it's a pattern. It shows up in the small things, the consistent things. The way someone remembers what you said three conversations ago. The way they follow through on something they mentioned offhand. The way they make time, not just find it when it's convenient. These things don't require being in the same room. They require a certain kind of attention — and attention, when it's genuine, is impossible to fake for long 🌿

What I've noticed is that when both people actually want to show up seriously, something shifts almost immediately. The tone changes. The pace changes. There's a certain weight to the conversation that wasn't there before — a quiet sense of "this matters to me and I want you to know that." It's not dramatic. It doesn't announce itself loudly. But it's unmistakable once you've felt it.

And I am absolutely convinced — genuinely, completely convinced — that when two people approach each other with honest intentions and the real desire to be understood and to understand, it changes everything about how the relationship develops 💛 That foundation, even if it starts through a screen, even if it starts slowly and carefully and with all the awkwardness that comes with not being able to just look someone in the eyes — that foundation holds. It actually holds.

The problem, in my honest opinion, is rarely the medium. It's the willingness. Because showing your real intentions means being a little vulnerable. It means saying something true before you know how it will land. It means choosing consistency even when it's not immediately rewarded. That's not easy for everyone. Some people would rather stay comfortable and keep things vague. And that's their choice. But it always costs something 🌸

I think the people who truly want something real find a way to show it — even from a distance, even without perfect conditions. Desire has a way of making itself known. It always does.

Do you think it's actually harder to trust someone's sincerity when there's a screen between you — or does it just require a different kind of attention? 💛

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