I wish there was a magic way to learn and understand a foreign language, but as we all learn that real life is not like things in the movies and film. I thought if I wrote about my own personal story, it may help others on this site.
As I have joined this site less than 2 months ago, and I have been on several others in my country after divorce 6 years ago. Like most unfortunately on here, I have gone thru divorce and other life changing circumstances that I did not plan or foresee. After divorce, I met my second love, a local woman who was also ending her divorce. She was a single mom, originally from Russia, and we fell in love, became engaged, and we have a son together. Although English was her second language, I always understood her, even unspoken things. As the movie "Hitch" says, 90% of what we say in a relationship is not with our words. But our relationship ended suddenly, and I find myself again, single in my mid-forties looking for my soulmate.
During my life, there have been many films that, for one reason or another, have been etched into my brain as very significant and memorable, but until recently, I did not notice the significance or how it related to my life as it is now. The movies shared a common story, whew a man and a woman from two different worlds, found love, and although they could not speak the others language, they understood and had a deep connection and though the film they discovered that they were each other's soulmate, and that there love was stronger than all others.
I didn't realize until recently, how much a film I watched when I was 10 years old, and how it relates to my thoughts. I will explain; in 1980 the TV mini-series James Clavell's "Showgun" captivated my mind. The story of how an Englishman ship captain landed in feudal Japan in the 17th century. The series is over 9 hours long, and although this is not a love story, there is a story of true love that lies in the film.
Two nights ago, I was watching James Cameron's film "Avatar", another great film where it has nothing to do romance, but within the story is a story of true love. Similar to other films, the man of the film does not speak the language, but the woman ends up teaching the man, and although neither has the desire or intent to fall in love, they do fall in love and realize that they are soulmates. There are a few other films like this that also resound in my mind, like the Hollywood version similar to the first I mentioned "the Last Samurai". But you be the judge for yourself. In these examples, the foreign language is not Russian, but in my life it is.
I would could not change a thing from my past, as it is impossible, and I have beautiful children that I love and adore. But I find myself single, yet again, and here on this site looking for my soulmate. Even after almost 5 years in a relationship with a Russian speaking woman, she was reserved about teaching me the language. Among my goals, I will learn this language, as my youngest is Russian and my credo is the be the best father I can be, to all my children and to my soulmate's child.
So I search for my soulmate, who I know is out there, and she speaks Russian. I will not give up on my quest, for my youngest's future and that of my own happiness depends on my success. So for those out there that this story may sound somewhat relative, I hope it gives you hope. Please don't give up. Stay focused, watch a good movie, and after you do your best, trust that the rest in God's hands, and it will happen. God bless, wake up every morning in a good mood, and have a great day!
Chad