I have seen this question posed here numerous times by so many ladies. What surprises me is that so few men have responded.

This blog is my own thoughts and response to this query.

Let me begin by stating two very simple facts. (I am in no way being stereotypical nor am I gender casting.)

Men were created to father children and work to support their family.

We as men are the "hunter gatherers" and it has been our purpose for eons.

Ladies you were created to bear and nurture the children. To teach, to guide and to give them life's essential skills.

Together we give our children all they need to become adults.

That being said I will now address a typical, and for the most part, incomplete myth so many women have towards men.

" All men think about is sex and want a beautiful woman!"

Yes men do wish to have a beautiful and alluring woman by their side. Yes men do desire to be intimate with that woman. Yes men do like to think about sex a lot.

It is "natural" and it is a trait which has been given to men! If men did not think as men do then how would we as humans continue to have children?

I am NOT condoning cheating, having intimacy with multiple ladies, or any such treason as this!

What I am saying is men are given hormones that tell us it is time to have children just as you ladies are. Sadly the fact is women think about intimacy as much as we men do. You just are not so open about it as men.

So why is it that so many ladies want us men to think we are wrong to desire intimacy as often as we do?

And why is it so wrong to desire a beautiful woman by our sides?

I agree with you ladies that desiring that intimacy with more then just one woman is not a good thing, but let's be realistic.
Both men and women desire intimacy and if it is as a married, engaged, or involved couple then it is not so wrong to desire it often is it?

To me intimacy is a wonderful and very loving part of who we are as a couple. It allows us to express the very deep emotional, spiritual and intimate bond we share.
It is an expression and desire to make each other understand just how much we love one another.

How did this become so wrong to desire?

To elaborate further about what I myself really want is not difficult to explain. I cannot speak for other men, but here are my "wants".

A woman who fully understands she is my equal! We share every aspect of our life together and talk about everything. No secrets, no holding back.

A woman who understands and appreciates I will do all in my power to make her life happy. I do not ask for anything but her love and support in return.

A woman who is NOT afraid to express her wants and desires to me.

A woman who will share her dreams with me and listen to mine in return. (What do we desire in our future together?)

A woman who fully understands it takes us both to have jobs in this day and age to be able to give our future family all it requires. To work "together" to ensure our family needs for nothing.

A woman who is able to have fun and be serious when it is needed.

A woman who is my best friend, lover, and confidant all in one soul.

The list could go on, but I think you see that what I "want" is a woman who understands she is more to me then just my intimate partner. I do not think my wants are far fetched or unrealistic.

As a matter of fact I am currently with a woman who is all of this and so much more.

So in answer to the question... "Men what do you really want?"

All I have with my lady and to spend the rest of my life being very happy beside her and doing all I can to make her happy.