This blog is meant for both men and women. Women reading it can examine their on selection process to determine if their need for emotional intimacy leaves them venerable to manipulation. Men reading it can use it to develop more effective strategies for making them a master sexual seducer.
To understand the idea being presented it must be remembered how and where we humans evolved. There was no technology other than maybe spears and knowledge about how to manage fire. Cooking of food came relatively late in the process. Evidence of this is the efficiency of our stomach greatly exceed our actual need when eating cooked food. The major problem for women was how to get protection while pregnant. A woman with a fat belly because of the baby growing inside is very venerable to predictor. She can’t run or if so very slowly. This led to an instinct of woman to seek and obtain emotional intimacy so she can obtain more information about her mate. The question she needs to answer is, “Does he have the character to protect and care for me.” This in turn led to men feel the emotion of love. Because men who loved their mate were more likely to reproduce successfully increasing the likelihood that their male offspring would feel the same emotion of love.
There are two emotional vulnerabilities that women have that can be exploited by a master sexual seducer and they are: 1) most if not all woman feel that their personal path to happiness is the path of love. That is if they follow their emotion of love they will be happy. I feel this is wrong. These emotions were programmed into us to facilitate our reproduction. Nature does not care if you live a happy life, but only that you reproduce. So this is a lie perpetuated by our genetic programming. 2) Women have a natural need to determine if the man they select as their partner, that is the one she allows to get her pregnant will hang around to protect her. To accomplish this she need to really know him. She accomplishes this through emotional intimacy and being an expert in reading body language. The ability to read body language for women is a genetically enhanced skill because women are better at it than men. And also a woman’s need for emotional intimacy is a result of genetic programming because a women who know more about her mate is better able to assure the survival of her offspring. This resulted in women in general to have a need for emotional intimacy out of proportion to actual need. So a master seducer could offer the woman the reward of emotional intimacy as an enticement for sexual relations. The problem of this approach is that most men have a low tolerance for emotional intimacy. For this strategy to work the man must have not only a high tolerance for emotional intimacy but a strong desire for it. I do not think this attitude or believe can be faked. The woman or target for seduction will see through your false attitude in an instance. So men to become better at seduction it is necessary for you to increase not only your tolerance for emotional intimacy but increase your desire for it. If you can accomplish this what was for you a negative now becomes an extreme positive.
I feel many of the strategies used by the seduction training community are actually techniques used to fake a desire for or high tolerance for emotional intimacy. So why fake it when you can not only act like the real deal but actual be the real deal. I think in the long run it is actually the easier approach and will be much more effective.