I have been thinking about this for a while and wish to share my thoughts.

As a 71 year old man, I have pondered the difference between making love to a beautiful woman and just having sex with her. Do not speak for all men and cannot speak for women, since I only have my own perspective.

First, having sex with a beautiful women. First of all, I think all women are beautiful in there own way. With some, it come naturally and others have to work at it. But the results, in my mind is that they are all beautiful and beauty is not only skin deep.

As a young man, say between the ages of 18 and 26, men tend to meet with a lady because they like what they see and their hormones cloud their judgment. I believe they are looking at a lady as a sex partner and not as a future wife or love. They maybe drink a little, buy a drink for a lady, chat with her (usually small talk) and see what happens. Of course, it is up to the lady if she wants to bed this man. I cannot speak for the lady, but the final decision is hers. The man only wants to please his sexual desire and prove that he is a man. In some situations, he is with his friends and has to prove himself. If he fails, his friends will tease him about it later, or he may lie later and said he had sex with the lady.

Somewhere around 26 or a little later, a man starts to feel that he wants more than sex with a beautiful woman. So he begins to look at a lady differently. He tries to find out more about her, what she likes and dislikes, what they may have in common and if they may end up being husband and wife for life. There is no time table for this, but it will probably take many dates and time spent together. It may even include sex at one point, because a man still is looking for a good sex partner. One that he will be faithful to and never leave.

As for having sex with a beautiful woman or making love to a beautiful woman, I see it as the following. Having sex may be a one night stand or a couple of sexual encounters. There is no love, but pure sex. There is no passion, just lust. There is no long term commitment, just sex for the sake of having sex.

As for making love to a beautiful woman, I see it this way. After many dates and maybe after being married, you make love to your future wife or legal wife. You tell her how beautiful she is and how she is so good to you. You kisses are given with passion, you explore every inch of her lovely body with kindness, tenderness and caress her because she is your love. You do everything you can do to make her feel like a queen and not just a one night stand.

I do not know if woman feel the same way or if the men who may read this agree with me. But I really don't care about that. I think you have to treat you beautiful wife to be or legal wife as the most important person in your life now and forever, no matter what happens in your life.

I would like to hear if you agree with me and maybe get some ladies opinions if you want to.

Thank you for letting me express my opinion.

the kid