As a child we seemed to be very resilient, we dealt with pain in our lives, and for the most part we were fine the next day. What is it, as we grew up and were drawn into relationships, sometimes knowing it was not a good match but did it anyway. We were so surprised and hurt when the relationship fail, we then carried that pain over to the next relationship. I have witnessed the mistrust of some of the ladies on this site, i believe there is a certain amount of miss trust on both sides of the ocean, as there has been allot of emotional pain suffered by both men and women. Mistrust arises in several forms, misguided doubt that someone is not communicating with them without knowing their challenges, potential husbands or future wives not making scheduled video chats. At what point do we tell ourselves that maybe, just maybe my significant other on this site just might have to overcome issues that impact their ability to communicate. instead of patience, we imagine they are no longer interested in you, or they are communicating with someone much more beautiful. they carry the pain from the previous relationship(s) and allow the hurt and doubt to fill their minds instead of being patient, the assumption becomes so real, it begins to damage the relationship of the future. Maybe, until we have evidence of misconduct of our future partner we should give them some time to work out the issues impacting their ability to communicate, instead of automatically assume that they have lost interest and have moved on without you letting them know.