I get requests every day requesting me to meet in chat at various times, mostly in the afternoon between 4-9pm Ukrainian time. In the Ukraine, you are 8 hours ahead of me. I, however, live on Eastern Standard Time in the USA, 8 hours behind and more for someone who lives 1,2, or 3 time zones to the West of my location in Michigan. For example, if you want to meet me for chat at 4pm Ukraine time (UT), that means I would have to chat with you at 8am my time. At 8am most people are at work or school. For me, I'm in school or driving to be somewhere. It's just not a feasible time for a 'chat'. Also, the cost of 'chat' is not free, it's nearly $1 per minute. It could be less if I was signed up for a premium monthly membership, but I'm not so it's expensive! So next time you want to chat with someone, realize that there is a HUGE time difference and that while it may be a convenient time for you, it might not be for the person you seek in 'chat'.

On average I get no less than 5-10 letters per day. Most of the letters come from very young, beautiful, and exuberant women ranging in age from 18-25. No offense ladies, but I'm not interested in pursuing some one the same age or younger than my daughter. I'm 50, that's likely older than most of your parents. Believe me when I say that I am flattered by the attention but at the same time we won't have that much in common. My energy level will be less than yours as well as our collective tastes in music, activities, and experiences. Besides, I've already raised my children and I'm not interested in having or raising any additional children. Don't get me wrong, I love children, I love teaching, but the thought of raising another family is of no interest to me.

I wanted to touch on a topic that is very interesting to me, unsolicited proclamations of love. There are only a couple of women that I have contacted on this site. You know who you are and I cannot say enough about how kind, respectful, and beautiful you are to me. I have been going to school full time since January (I won't be finished with school until next summer) and I have not responded to or written any letters. I just don't have time. I love that the very few select women I have contacted still write to me, keeping me up to date on their lives and activities. There are others though, women I have never contacted who write me daily, sometimes multiple times in a single day. Letters typed in BOLD CAPITAL TEXT demanding a response to their proclamation of love. Thank you, but in all honesty, NO THANK YOU! Please show some self control and consider that I'm not interested enough to respond. I understand that there are not as many men as women. It's not fair, not for me or for you.

Lastly, I want to share 8 Rules for life and relationships.

I have lived all over the place. Everywhere from Alaska to Panama. During that time I have learned some difficult lessons that you can be certain you will eventually learn on your own.

1. You cannot control another person. It's hard enough to control yourself.
2. You cannot change another person.
3. Change is inevitable, but normally only occurs as a result of extreme emotional or physical pain, and then you choose to change because the pain is unbearable.
4. Never, repeat never, chase someone who does not want to be caught.
5. Everyone has free choice. You can't choose for someone else and they can't choose for you. So respect the choices other people make, even if you don't agree with their respective choices.
6. You have to love everyone, even if you don't like them, because we are all connected on a spiritual level.
7. Treat other people as you want to be treated (i.e. be loving, kind, and fair).
8. Take care with your thoughts and feelings, because your positive and negative thoughts and feelings will manifest and create both negative or positive events in your life.

In closing I would add that you are all beautiful and you all have something to offer the right person. That's the hard part though, finding the right person for you! I wish for you all to find love, whether here or closer to home! Have faith in yourself, love yourself, and in turn love will find you!

Charlie