Previously, I was sure that before you enter into a relationship with a person (friendship, love, business), you need to find out his values, attribute him to some type, determine his beliefs etc.
Now I think that it’s necessary just to FEEL a person.
Probably, this cannot be taught. It comes by itself, if that person is "yours." Or does not come if he is not. Perhaps this is due to the fact that you begin to feel. The deeper you know yourself, the better you feel others.
The mind is deceiving. Psychological protections, perceptual filters, unreliable information and subjective criteria are triggered. And you collect data, analyze, draw conclusions... And you lose the essence - an intuitive knowledge of what kind of person really is.
At first we see too much surface. Behind the ostentatious irony lies the sentient soul. Behind deliberate self-sufficiency is a vulnerable entity. Behind aggression hides pain and fear.
You will not understand all this if you only listen to what the person says. The wounds inflicted by others lead us through life. Therefore, even actions do not always tell the truth.
And only your heart is never wrong.

I wonder if you share my thoughts?
Thanks for reading me :)

Yana