Did you see a movie “Autumn in New York”? I think almost each person
has chance to see it. It is a story when young lady and older man
created serious relations with real, strong feelings of mutual love
and respect. Much has been written and even more debated about
whether such unions make sense. Let’s try to understand what attracts
the younger woman to the older man? And the older man to the younger
woman?
Usually people adore to talk about other, moreover if there is
something unusual in life of your neighbors. Yes, society often likes
to pass judgments and compartmentalize the reasons for an older
man-younger woman relationship as ‘She’s in it for his money and/or
he’s in it for the sex’. But it doesn’t necessarily hold true in many
cases.
I think that young woman may be attracted to an older man for many
reasons, for example:
1) Maturity
Younger women often complain that guys their age aren’t mature enough.
It’s a known fact that on the whole girls mature faster than boys, and
even as adults in a certain age bracket, say the 20’s, women tend to
be the more mature than their male counterparts. Guys their age often
act like overgrown boys and seem to want to spend more time watching
football matches and at the local watering hole, rather than talking
to their woman or spending some quiet time together. Even when young
man try to find relations, then comes to an end very quickly, just
after he gets his main aim – sex. This is just in reason of age –
young man doesn’t need more yet. So why not turn to an older man who
would probably be more interested in similar pursuits and mature
conversations?
2) Father figure
I think all of us have heard that each lady is looking for a man, who
will be inside and outside look like her father. To some younger
women, either from divorced homes or who have lost their father at a
young age, it is an unconscious need to fulfill their longing for a
father figure in their lives. While many discount this theory, it
still does hold weight and has been found to be true in a number of
cases.
3) Indulgent
Older men are often more tolerant and understanding than the younger
generation of males. They can be generous – both as lovers and
materially too. And women, who always love to be cosseted, can get an
enormous kick out of being cared for and indulged.
4) Experienced
Most older men, simply by virtue of having ‘been there, done that’ are
worldly wise and can offer invaluable advice to a younger, more
inexperienced woman. Again, as lovers, what they may lack in terms of
the energy and drive of a younger man, they can more than make up for
in skill and expertise.
As for me, I have to say that older men understand life, can listen to
you and give you right advice, when in relations with younger man –
woman has to be his mother and steps in life experience. But each lady
has to choose my her own. All I think is must is to be happy)