I have been here for a while now, my hearts mission is still in view, if you read my profile, i believe it is spelled out very clear. Some of the letters and chats i have received, dont ask questions of substance for the most part, they tend to stray off into the carnal side of life, I will love and provide all the desires of my chosen mate, it seems a large swath of the seekers here are of the try it before you buy it opinion.. i cant tell you the number of sexual comments, descriptions, and described sexual activity that is for the offering, and yes, adult conversation normally will turn to this type of quiet interlude, personally, i would think that would be after a period of meaning full conversations. What is a meaningful conversation? a description of your lifes experiences and stories, for instance, you have a business, what type, and do you feel that is your future. you may have a child, or two. where is the father, what happened to the relationship or relationships, will there be a custody issue if you chose to move to a foreign country, what was your family like, were you raised in a religious family or maybe not. do you have brothers and sisters, what is your relationship to them. where do you want to be in 6 months, with your new love, is there anything that is a definite no go for a relationship. i have been asked if i had ever hit a woman, the answer for me, is once as she was in the process of assaulting another woman, any other time, no. There are allot of things that can be out there for meaningful conversation. I want to meet face to face with my future wife, and yes i believe in marriage, and shun promiscuity and females that believe in multiple sex partners in a committed relationships. but you wont know these things unless you expose to your man you are communicating with, and he explain to you. You might not want children, but your potential man does, you might not want to move out of your country due to your business or other relationships, but your man is not willing to give up his country as there may be signs of an approaching conflict in your country, or other issues which preclude the desire to move to your country. So, i guess i am saying, talking a little about your desires is fine, but at the end of the day sexual desires are not the only thing in the success or failure of a potential relationship. I hope i did not offend anyone, but i felt it was important to be said, as i am looking for the love of my life, and for a future loving family.