Hi dear! Does getting married makes people happier or healthier?? Maybe the flip side of being married is just not being alone? In fact single people are more connected to other people than married people are, and people who marry typically become more insular than they were when they were single. have you heard about that? recently i was on the social meeting and discovered for myself that ther are a few types of marriages!!! can you believe that??? One person want to marry the other person, it is great. but what marriage do we need??

Do you know what you really want??

#1 Starter marriage: Couples want to try out marriage for a pre-determined amount of time, without having kids. They sign legal contracts. Before the time is up, they decide whether to split or to renew their marriage or move on to a different kind of marriage.

#2 Companionship marriage: This is another marriage that is not about children. Couples marry for friendship, to have someone to socialize with and do other things together. It is not about passion or romance.

#3 Parenting marriage: This model of marriage is all about the children. A romantic connection need not be part of the package. Two people commit to raising kids together and providing a great home for them. They promise to stay together only until all of their children become independent. Of course, they can always decide to stay together even after that, but the forever assumption is not part of their marital contract from the start.

#4 Safety marriage: Some people marry for money. Others marry for health insurance or for financial security while they pursue their passions or an education or they marry for some other instrumental reason. Don't get all judgy! It is not gold-digging or exploitation if each spouse gets something out of the arrangement and each explicitly agrees to it from the outset.

#5 Living alone together marriage: This marriage is for people who say they need their space, and mean it, literally. Each spouse has a place of his or her own. They are committed to the relationship but want a measure of autonomy, too.

#6 Open marriage: Spouses have other partners but they are not sneaking around. They are practicing "consensual non-monogamy." They want a stable marriage but not a monogamous one. The "consensual" part means they've agreed to it.

First of all i would prefer to be open with each other. i would say that i 'd ike to combinate a few in one, depending more or less. what about you?

Elina