I have been here for a while now, a man looking for his future love, wife, confidante, and greatest friend. First let me say to all of you who are writing to a man who seems to be the one you are looking for, do not pick out or draw attention to you personal views as to your imperfections of you body, appearance, hair color, eye color, lips, breast size, height, weight, or your perception of your status in life. I receive 100'ds of messages and letters each week, and what bothers me the most, is woman that talk poorly about how they look in comparison to the other Ladies they think are more beautiful, more developed in the breast area, more educated than they are, more financially secure than they are, on and on and on, I could write several blogs as related to the issues that reflect a severe lack of self esteem, self worth, personal subconscious acts of future relationship destructive behavior which shines through in the self doubt you and to reflect in you feeling that a man you are looking to give your ? too, has some how in his silence, has rejected you as your self consciousness has brought up old feelings, or negative conversations, or rejections, thinking they are the sum of who you are. It is a shallow man indeed, who focus purely on a woman's appearance. Do not assume that all men are alike, yes there will be men that cheat, hurt, lie, and judge you on your appearance alone. I guess you need to ask yourself if this type of relationship is what you desire, I have noticed, there are some woman here you claim they are here for a long term relationship, but their personal communication with you, are no different than those men, that are here for the single challenge to sleep with as many woman as they can, without any interest in a real relationship. I have discovered that as well in some of the woman here as well. When you communicate with photos, and in your photos you are wearing what appears to be a wedding band on your ring finger, allot of men looking for a long term relationship, will see this and move on in order to prevent from being hurt, cheated on, lied too, or somehow decieved by the female who wants this relationship. Understand, that most people here have been hurt and lied to that is why they moved on looking for an honest loving relationship. I will say this to all of you in closing, I have found on this site, a vast number of ladies that have beautiful smiles, personalities, life views, but not all woman present themselves well, choosing to criticize their looks, life status, believing children is a no go for a relationship, and that probably is true for a man here that is a closet player, hiding is true indentity with lies about his motives here. I don't care if you dig ditches, or are of royalty. I will say, that if your entire reason for a relationship with me is sex, then you have not read my profile or any of the other blogs I have written. I have made it no secret what I am looking for, I had one lady tell me she left her husband after they fell out of love. Don't come to me, if you are unwilling to fight for your relationship, if you read my blogs you will understand what I am saying. In closing, I want to reassure you that not all men are looking only on the outside, but the inner world in which you live.