First, let me start off by saying "No!", Deep vulgarity does not work for all men. I am sure, I will have my share of men, and a few ladies that think themselves experts on all men's minds and how they work, unfortunately, even the brightest amoung you may, just maybe won't get it right all of the time. Not all men share the exact same life experiences, childhoods, parental influences, family and relationship dynamic, each of these differences tend to make us who we are. I have begun to doubt some of you are interested in what someone has to say in their profile, if the pictures begin too cause your ? to flutter, your eyes to water, butterflies in the stomach, that's all you feel you need to know. Is it? If you are willing to read my blogs or my profile, you would never need to ask my why I respond to some young ladies and not others, if you have the need to tell me you think you are ugly, or ask what is wrong with you, or maybe question your obvious beauty, then you probably did not read my profile. What adults do in private does not necessarily equal public conversation, and not all men, at least I don't have sex on a first date, again read my profile. I am not a car that can be test driven, just to see if you like the apolstry, I am a bit deeper than that. Do I have an issue ? on a first date, no, if that is the feeling you have, we can go with that, in my perspective, if you want sex on the first datee, knowing how vulnerable you are when doing that, then I would rather find someone else than you, I am looking for a loving, passionate, life long commitment, with children in the picture, I need to be able to trust you completely, going through one divorce after I gave all of me to my now ex wife, and she chose to crush my heart, someone unwilling to keep her legs closed even for a night, just does not equate to confidence. In closing, I want you ladies to know, I am here for a wife and children, I do not fear children from another marriage, also, there are so many beautiful ladies out there, but u choose not to respond to anyone using a premade question, not being real, and not in for the romance and passion of a love relationship, seeking to do nothing more than an on line hookup, I better than that, and I want to believe that about you as well.