Hi to all you lovely ladies,
I am not sure if this will pass moderation but I need to say this in hopes that you lovely ladies on here will read it. We are all here hoping to find a true love, our soulmate, our partner for life and to do so we read letters, read profiles and look at pictures.
First we look at pictures and read through profiles to see what people interest us but do we really read what we see or do we just look and then write. If we are to be serious we need to pay attention to what we see and read. If you don't like pets and you see them in pics then maybe stay away from her or him. If you want to converse with someone then maybe check their languages and see where they rate themselves. By reading a profile we must decide if this person interests us so when we write them mention the comments in the profile and ask questions. Make sure you always answer questions honestly as this is what helps the other person decide if you are the person of their desires and dreams. If you are not honest, then you are not being true to yourself and therefore you are setting yourself up for heartbreak and disaster.
Sure we all fall in love with pictures but please make the pictures real and not always photo-shopped ones. We all want to see the real you, whether it be man or woman. When we looked at professional shots and then see something from everyday life and it does not look like you, then something is array. Be you and be real.
Take time to read a man's profile and understand what he is saying. If a man says he is attached and not wishing to receive letters because he has found someone, then please respect his rights and views. If you continue to write him and he does not answer or he writes you that one letter asking if you have read his profile and you continue to write, then what are you expecting from him. In real life if you saw a couple together, would you approach them continuously and try to gain the attention of that man or woman? I would hope not so what is different here with letters. Even when a person answers you to say he is not interested in you then why bother to write him or her because, in reality, you are cheating or flirting with that person and trying to break up a loving relationship.
I know it is hard to find that right person but you do have to be serious here. It is very expensive here for us men and none of us can afford to write letters to all the ladies that write us. I also know that because it is the internet that it may be hard to know what is real out there but you have to believe and be sincere.
If you treat the site as a tool to help you find love, then respect everyone here and treat them with the love and respect you want to find yourself. If you want to find love and be honest with yourself and those on the site then please take the time to read and understand what someone is writing, saying or asking. Be true to yourself and then others will be true to you.
I have been here 5+ years now and have fell in love a few times but nothing came from those relationships because promises were made and not kept. Contact info was shared but then ladies disappeared or did not respond to emails, some ladies refused to exchange at all. I have been played a number of times but I persevered and I have found that one woman I want to spend my life with. We do our regular chats when I have credits and I write her as often as I can. She is serious about me as I am about her. She is going through the visa process and we are looking forward to having that process completed real soon and hopefully in October or November she will be able to travel to me here in Canada and we will marry shortly after her arrival.
so ladies and gents please take the time to be real and be honest first with yourself and then with whomever you are interested in. Take the time to get to know and understand each other and commit to that person and forget the rest. And ladies, if a man does not answer your letters, check his profile or best yet scenario, move on to find one who will answer your letters and notes.
Again I hope this passes moderation as i think it is information that will help both sides of the puzzle and may lead to more success for everyone looking. God bless you all and good luck in your searches.