I have read the subject matter of many letters from women here. They ask if "all" men look for those "special" things in a relationship. Threesomes is the foremost concern. Open or free relationships seems to be the next topic women here ask about.
I cannot speak for any other man but myself on this. To me it is not conducive to a true relationship or serious commitment if any man or woman has a desire to share intimacy with more then just their mate. To involve any other in the act of intimacy in my mind is simply not what true love and devotion is about.
Open or free relationships is by far the strangest way to love in my thought. Why bother being with someone if you are looking to spend your time with another? In today's world they call it free love, it is no different then what my generation called "friends with benefits". I don't judge anyone who feels these things are acceptable and can be happy with doing them.
I am simply putting my thoughts on these subjects here to let anyone who reads this know not all men seek these things. Some of us really do not desire them and will never let it be any part of a serious relationship we have.
We all make our choices in life and if this is what makes both of you happy then by all means I wish you all the best. Such things as this are very serious and should be made known to our mates long before any relationship approaches the serious commitment state.
Please understand I am not insulting anyone, nor am I saying they are wrong to desire such things. How anyone makes their relationships work is completely up to them both.
I only express my thoughts and feelings on this matter and make it clear that not all men are open to them. I have never had such experiences as these and really don't desire to ever try. So in reply to the many ladies who asked if this is the dream of "all" men I say no it truly is not.