I am not usually an outspoken person, and I fight myself not to judge people at all, and usually I win, which means, as the Bible says, "judge not, lest ye be judged!" I am not perfect by far, and while I welcome truly constructive criticism and will give it, we all should not judge. I think we all have a little room for improvement, yes? My thoughts then, are these. Relationships between two people are so important to every human being in this life at any time. True love is based on honesty in feeling and belief, especially in the rare communication between those people. Why do I say 'rare'? How often have you said something as a belief or the truth and have had it turned around on you in mere seconds, causing you to rethink your position? Just restate your thoughts and do the best you can, while remembering that we are not Gods and therefore nothing we say can be held as absolute!
Again, to my way of thought and by the way my Mom raised me, Relationships between a man and a woman are based on honesty and fidelity. They are as sacred to each other as can ever be possible; as sacred as marriage is to God. Sad to say, not many believe in God nowadays, or they seem not to believe, or they put no importance on Him, especially before their friends. I'd ask you all, all of of those who desire 'open relationships' to rethink your position. Query; what if you really develop the sacred feelings toward your partner, but he or she doesn't? Where will you be? In a brand new world of hurt and all alone, that's where. On top of all that, your reputation for open relationships follows you. So what chance of a relationship in fidelity will you ever have? As we grow older, our desires and feelings change, sometimes drastically. Why do we have people who remove tattoos now? Having a tattoo removed may be easier than having your reputation removed and then repaired... for who will trust you after a complete turnaround like that? And what of the possibilities of dire diseases after many partners. Sure, it seems harmless but in fact, it is not harmless at all, and that, my friends, is a proven medical fact. Most of American men are told of a high percentage of HIV/Aids in Ukraine, by American doctors who have treated people here from Ukraine, who were former prostitutes. I don't know the statistics on this, so take it with a grain of salt. I was told this by 2 Urologists here in America and warned to be especially careful. Again, let me state, I do NOT know the truth in these statements, but it is what I was told and warned to be careful of. I have my own doubts of the validity of these statements, because the women I have met here are of such a high quality in their care of themselves, that it seems improbable they would allow such a thing to happen to them. In fact, I am still here and still searching for a wife here. I have no fears at all. I'm merely trying to help you with what possibilities can happen in an open relationship for both genders. Please rethink your position on this, and for future generations sake, do not further HIV/Aids. It's deadly!
Suffice it to say, I am more spiritual than religious, but I do believe in the sanctity of marriage and the sacred vows. Still, I was twice married and twice betrayed, and left with the children in both cases. I am no Saint, by any means, but if you want a challenge, try raising 2 little beautiful girls, ages 2 and 4, all by yourself. Get them through 1st dates and romances, and through college, then into marriages and 1st births, and believe me, you will be thoroughly tried. I can only thank God my two are successful, but I know without His help, this could have gone another way. I could never have done this by myself, but I did devote all my life to them and never even dated anyone while they were growing up. I was the only example they had to follow, right or wrong...but it worked. Now I am alone and older, but far from dead))). Knowing that married men live longer, I came here to improve my chances for a longer, happier life. For any interested parties, I learned that the only way for me to live a happy life, is to make my wife happy first and keep her that way. It is far easier and better appreciated than the other ways! We're all in the same boat here, I think, so please let's all be friendly and help one another to the best of our abilities. I think all of us just want to simply live and love, so do it! That's how it starts. Find the possible partner with the right set of qualifications for you and pursue him or her. Make that first step, no one will bite you). You may not succeed at first try, but you may learn something invaluable for your future, and aren't we all here for the future???
In Love and Hope,
Ray!