Cliff, if you are writing to women under 45 you have your answer. What you describe is all that these women know. I have written to 3 woman here, but now only one. All over 45, one 50. These 3 are the kindest, most sincere, caring and compassionate women I have known. They are anything BUT cold. I will be meeting my lady friend shortly. I don't know what you say to the women you meet, so I can't speak to that. I don't speak to many woman. I, too, have gotten many letters. I just delete them. I narrow it down, after a long time of evaluating, and pick one and concentrate on her. I look for something that reaches out to me, besides her T&A. I have met one or two flakes, but they are quickly weeded out. If they have photos in their underwear on the site, those are also quickly gone; an honorable woman does not lead with sex, no matter how often she says, "I am family oriented." Absolute statements are almost never correct. You cannot comment on "all" Ukrainian women, only the ones you've met. I just think you're looking in the wrong place. David