If so, well, dear misery, you're not desperately alone… (Ha! Ha!) Of course, in such times, we then tend to think that falling in love, finding a good lover, partner may be a good part of the solution. It may be indeed. But then, we know that finding a good lover, partner may, will probably, take time, probably won't happen overnight. In the meantime, there are lots of things we can do to help ourselves. Friendship is quite important, rewarding; it may even be somewhat, at times, at the same level as love. Taking care of a little animal, pet can be quite rewarding too; a little animal, pet can teach us a lot too; and she/he usually doesn't argue with us… (Wink!). We can try hard to develop interest (in a few people, activities, things), even passion, to find inspiration, motivation (motor). There are no stupid interest, activities (as long as they are decent, honorable). And, what do you know, when you develop interest, you become interesting! In the case of passion, you become passionate! As always, getting started is difficult. But then, who said good things came easily, in life, without making efforts? You think about it a bit, and, at some point, you plunge. I still haven't read about anybody, anywhere, who died of plunging, trying to develop interest (well, apart from that guy who plunged in an empty pool… (Wink!)). The worst thing that can happen is that it not be a great success. In such a case, you humbly say: "OK, that wasn't a great success (I hope there weren't too many people watching…). Back to the drawing table…" There are manual skills of all kinds. There are hobbies of all kinds. Sure, there are sociocultural activities, exercise, sport activities, but then, there are also intellectual activities (reading, studying, thinking, writing), also activities where we try to help others (health, education, humanitarian assistance). As for fields of intellectual activities, there are history, law, economics, political science, business administration, biological and physical sciences, literature, cultures of other people, like languages, all sorts of arts (artistic expressions), theater, music (popular, rock and roll, rhythm and blues, soul, jazz, classical, world, among others), dance (rock and roll, social dance, Latin American dances (Argentine tango, among others), slows (Ohhh… (Wink!)), folkloric dance, interpretation, song writing, composition), drawing, painting, sculpture, photography, among others. Never underestimate the importance of psychology, religion, spirituality, philosophy (ethics, logic, political philosophy, among others). We can try hard to develop interest in people around the world, may they be in Europe, in the Middle East, in Africa, in North, Central, South Americas, in Australia and the surroundings, in Asia. We can try hard to develop interest in nature (from the infinitesimal little (particle physics, electronic microscopy, biochemistry, genetics) to the infinitesimal big (astrophysics, astronomy, galaxies, the universe)), in geography, oceans, lakes, rivers, mountains, plants (flora), animals (fauna), wilderness, wildlife, ecology, the environment. Humor, playfulness are almost always good things (except when the joke is on you… (Wink!)). Thoughts (changes of attitude) When our time will be done, down here, on Earth, what will we have done, what will we have brought to others? Ask not what a woman, others in the world, can do for you, ask what you can do for a woman, for others in the world (adaptation of a quote by JF Kennedy) You're still feeling desperate, lonely, miserable? On YouTube, look exactly for: - Gaelynn Lea: NPR Music Tiny Desk Concert NPR Music - Sexuality and Disability: Forging Identity in a World that Leaves You Out | Gaelynn Lea | TEDxYale TEDx Talks Gaelynn Lea was born with osteogenesis imperfecta, a genetic condition that causes complications in the development of bones and limbs. Lea became impassioned by classical music from an early age, and in fifth grade a teacher took notice and encouraged Lea to pursue music after she had the class's only perfect score on a music listening test. Lea developed a technique for violin which involved holding the bow "like a baseball bat" with the body of the instrument placed in front of her, like a cello, and attached to her foot so it wouldn't slip when she played. Lea attended Macalester College, where she majored in political science; prior to her music career, she had planned to pursue a career as a lawyer and disability rights advocate. - No Arms, No Legs, No Worries! ftcmethods Believe it or not, that guy happily married (it seems) an intelligent looking, beautiful, attractive young lady, and they now have four children! Think not about what you haven't, think about what you have, and try to fully appreciate it, make the most of it. Think about orphans, blind, deaf people, people with other serious disabilities, with serious illnesses, think about victims of serious accidents, of sex trafficking, of young ladies caught in sex trafficking networks, who have been sent somewhere, say, in Asia, to work in brothels (hell on Earth, surely), among others. Ideas, suggestions are of course welcome! Now, what interesting thing could I do, try… "Sweetheart, what interesting could we do, try? What? Ohhh… (Wink!)" Kind regards