Let me explain what romance is…

Cute things...

Soft light, aroma therapy (I study this and will always make my blend everyday to suite the mood I want), the feel of silk (I am a lover of silk and never sleep on or wear any undergarments that is not 100% silk), moonlight, stars, the soft sound of waves while on a beach, background music…

Personal stuff and doing personal things....

Example I love when it is done personally.

Or a beautiful massage with aromatic oils. I am not talking about providing the partner with a massage once a year. It could be daily or few times a week. Could even be a simple foot or hand massage. I actually call massaging a dance of love and have studied all techniques from Tantra to Tao to sports massage. I find it is one of the greatest gifts a person can possess to worship your partner. Even a simple touch on the neck can be done with passion and purpose to make your partner relax and feel connected.

Taking time to do things…..

When a person spends time to make it happen… Like when special birthday cards or Christmas cards are done personally.

Selective blindness…..

Not acknowledge anything about your beloved that could possibly be interpreted as a fault.

If you are in a difficult situation and you are struggling I will not make you drown by pointing a finger at you or putting pressure on you. I will only focus on saving you and your self-esteem. In other words, not to cause embarrassment.

Remembering important dates....

The day the first love letter was written. Birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

Pet names…

To call each other names carefully crafted…

Style…

Be elegant, humble, refined, independent, thoughtful, responsible, compassionate, spontaneous, reputable, graceful, polite, literate, entertaining, discreet, funny, upstanding, sensitive, fun, sophisticated, pleasant, selfless, reverent, and genuine….. without faking them ))))

Now put all these together and add a little flavour, I feel that…

Romantic love is not passionate love. Romantic love has the intensity, engagement and sexual chemistry that passionate love has, minus the obsessive component. No anxiety or uncertainty….calm relaxed but strong intimacy (spiritual, emotional, and physical).

Also, romance is alive when, each partner is eager to please the other for no other reason than to make him or her happy. When competing, complaining, and blaming are a no..no!

When emotions and decisions are no longer all your own, but are intertwined with those of your partner.

I believe that romance dies when it meets up with stubborn independence or selfishness. I have found romance to be blooming only when partners forge new values, priorities, and goals together. I always equate this to professional development. We are able to learn what is required to flourish in our jobs but fail to give the same emphasis to a relationship or the partner.

I feel that the ability to understand and trust each other, and learn together what is really important in life is crucial to the foundation of romance.

Cannot be double-minded. Romance requires choosing reality over fantasy. Or in other words both partners must exercise faith. The ability for me to worship you in every aspect of life (from the bed to what you do or how you do your work).

Romance exists where physical intimacy is used for its purpose: celebration, recreation, and unification. Because it makes forgiveness, patience, acceptance, and forbearance easier. It is cherished for its innocence and beauty. Use it as an expression of love, desire, appreciation, and tenderness.

Romance has super power when partners are:

One heart…. desiring to make each other happy, to be together, and to belong to each other.

One mind… sharing the same values and basic life goals, and working together to attain them.

One body… .pleasures and comforts of intimate sensuous affection.