Women, how many times have you said this to a man who says he loves you? ...You say you love me but why? and if you cant name at least five reasons why then you do not love me... You just love the idea of me... or maybe you like how I look or how I make you feel... or is it the attention I’m giving you... Plus, you don’t know me, not really... I've heard these comments before and recently from a woman I've found here on this site that means so much to me. Though we have not meet in person yet, I love her. We have written letters faithfully to each other since July and know so much about each other. So is it even possible for me to say I love her on this alone? Don't two people have to physically meet to see if its true love at first sight? Is this how we know if its really love? Do we think love is just an uncontrollable feeling? What would you think if I said its not? I think we tend to think love is all butterflies and obsessively thinking about that person all day long. These are wonderful feelings that are great to have and a lot of fun. We should enjoy them. But is this really love or is just infatuation? In my opinion reality love is much more than this and deeper. Real love consists of pain and sacrifice that brings about the most precious, sought after, and beautiful thing in the world when it’s real and reciprocated. So do feelings of infatuation bring this reward? Or is this a choice we make? Think about it... what if someone knows everything about you, even that small embarrassing thing that you try to hide. Imagine making mistakes, messing up, and even letting that person down or hurting them. They forgive you and are wise enough to read between the lines of the situation and don’t judge you for it. Would you say this person really loves you? Yes... This is real love. Real love is someone who notices the little things about you. Like a physical blemish or habit they hate but they think is cute because it's part of you as a whole. They notice your nervous ticks, how you tear up over things that touch you, and can see your faults but still love your heart. They know you and your compassion. This is love... Real love is being fully exposed and known by someone and they accept you, adore you, and even love you. So tell me.... is real love a choice or a butterfly feeling? What do you say? What do you say my angel? Jason