Hello, all! Bob and Andrew have written excellent pieces on various aspects of this process. Although I have not been to Ukraine, I have studied Ukrainian language for over a year and have a teacher in Kiev who Skypes with me weekly. She attempts to keep me up to date with happenings there,so I am not totally in the dark. I will reinforce Bob's comments. The sexual photos and enhanced breasts are more of a turn off than a turn on. I delete these letters and chats. We know what you have, girls; we've seen it before. What is offensive is when you flaunt it in our faces, thinking that the only way to appeal to us is through our loins. We are not gorillas in the woods; most of us have sown our "wild oats" and are looking for families and loyal companions. We like the other stuff, too, but it doesn't permeate every fiber of our being. My other point is the risk to communicate off site. If you balk at this, you cause doubt in us. There are free services available once you have established a working relationship here. The Site does not mind; they have provided their service and have been remunerated more than sufficiently. This next step is essential. Do you really expect a man to visit you who has not seen you at least in a live video chat? When I hear, "I do not have a camera" or "I am too busy," I must ask, "Why are you here?" I can only consider you as disingenuous, and I will move on. Bob makes a good but sad point when he says the USA is not what it was. I too think of moving there rather than bring a lady here... Fortunately, I have a girl here, and I am planning a visit. Hopefully Bob and and Andrew will send a few pointers my way. Blessings to all! David