Hello ladies and gents and THX for reading my many humble experiences and travel diaries. Recently i have gotten an alarming number of emails from ladies here that expressed anger over me not returning their messages and chat invitations. Today i hope to address this and clear up the confusion and anger coming from the ladies side. I joined this site to find a patient, kind, loyal and smart woman. To the ladies that write and get angry over me not returning your messages, this is for you. I am not obligated to return any messages here. So that it's crystal clear.to you i want to introduce some math to you in the deep felt hope that you will understand a man's point of view on this site. Today i received 7 emails. Today was a slow day actually. Usually the number is closer to 11 or 12 actually. Each message costs the men here between $2.50 to $4. If we study the math here that's roughly $50 per day to just return unsolicited emails. That word "unsolicited" means e-mail where i did not write the lady and she just decided to write while she sat in the agency or at work or was just sitting at home. So if a man spent between$40 and $50 per day here then he would spend alot.of time and money just telling the ladies here ''thank you but i am writing to someone that has all of my attention." I don't know of a function on this particular site where we can hide our profiles but not totally delete them. There have been occasions where i change my profile on purpose as a test just to see if the ladies actually read it, or if they just see me online and write, like throwing darts at a dartboard in the dark. I did not come to this site to answer every lady that writes me to tell her about my life in an endless session of back and forth messages. I sincerely wish i could write to everyone here in a few short words to tell them Thank you but i am.not interested. That might make it easier for you ladies to understand me and where i am coming from. I am thoroughly annoyed when i get what i call a "copy and paste" letter that contains little personal information and seems to be made and sent to many men here with my name inserted to make it seem personal. I get alot of those letters. I have noticed a trend, where i get alot of mail from a certain city in little clusters of time. For example, i get alot of mail from Donetsk sometimes or Odessa and the letters come in a 5 or 10 minute timeframe and all contain really similar short and impersonal messages. I see this as someone at an agency trying to either be a matchmaker for their friends OR...someone here trying to make money on open hearts and full wallets. This cannot be explained in any other way except that someone is sending these letters from an agency...unless the admin or ladies here know something we men aren't supposed to know!? Ladies i didn't come here to spend alot of money being polite and gentle on your egos. You are all beautiful and are surely accustomed to alot of attention but i don't and won't answer everyone that writes to me. I especially won't answer you when you write and show anger and entitlement that i should answer you! Also when you send me messages about your never ending devotion to me, but cannot meet me in chat to prove who you are then i won't write to you..DELETE is what happens! I even recently changed my profile to say i have met someone here but i still get messages from new ladies that seem to have never read my profile. When i tell them to read my profile or the blog really carefully they all say they have read it but still write even though in my blog and profile i clearly said that i don't and won't reply to anyone without a way to meet in a live chat. A live chat is just the first hurdle that i see in the way of me meeting.someone here. No webcam = no answer to your messages. I know i have written this a few times but i will write it again. I don't need to see you wearing lingerie or even to see you nude in a video chat session but i do want to see your eyes and face or your home and lifestyle. Sure...i will not ignore the very VIVID facts that many men here send perverted messages to you wonderful women on this site. But i am not one of them. In fact i dare anyone here to post a message where i have said sexually explicit things at any time on this site!!! I try to say kind things that are uplifting to the lady that reads my message. Does anyone reading this have the same rules about answering or NOT answering the phone or letters and text messages. If someone calls my cell phone and i don't answer immediately it's because i am busy, unavailable or i just don't want to talk at the moment. So 2 calls and no answer and if it's super urgent then i am.gonna send a quick text message to say i have to speak to them urgently. I also will leave a voicemail with the details of the "urgent" matter at hand. But one thing i will not do is call, text and write over and over if i don't get an answer after 30 minutes or so. I get alot of email here but if you don't hear from me It's because i am simply not interested. We men here join to find someone and we have no real obligation to return messages to the female members. When the messages are impersonal and vague then we men definitely delete them and let them go unanswered! A vague and impersonal message will 9 out of 10 times go unanswered by me!!! I have even gone so far as to ask the lady writing to me to keep our letters strictly to family and life goals-ambitions. That works for a letter or 2 but eventually they just fade away and fall out of the "possible" file i have Into the "pretty face" file. So here we are now....me writing to the site to have them post on the blog to clear up any disagreements and you, some special woman trying to prove that she is ready and open to moving forward with a real loving, and hopeful courtship and relationship. Please ladies, if we men don't write back It's not meant to damage your fragile self image. It's because we are either busy or we have found someone. We don't want ANYONE TO FEEL rejected or disgraced just because we don't answer an email message. Most of us just want real love with no drama. We want a queen on our arm while in public or at the company.and we want a total tigress and freak in the bedroom!!! :) It's true ladies...we do! Don't be surprised if your man asks you to do things in the bedroom that he wouldn't want to run and tell his mother about and for sure doesn't want your family to know either! We are all adults here and know how to please the opposite sex. Just because you sent me a sexually explicit message to get my attention doesn't mean i will read or enjoy it and it doesn't mean that i must answer you. Keep it clean at first and then we can talk about the serious stuff. Finally, ladies and fellow members, please take your time to read my profile or the profile of the man you are writing to. Many of us value when you know our personal information. We also value that you give us feedback and answers to messages we send you. I can't tell you how many times i have written a long thoughtful message to a woman only to have her write back to me as if i never wrote to her at all, but then later she will ask me the things i answered or described many messages before. Pay attention to the details please. I am an encyclopedia of knowledge, and a wealth of love and kindness.