Hello ladies and gents and thank you for reading my never ending rambling experiences ;) My first travel experience to any part of the former Soviet Union was to Russia, Novokuznetsk to be exact, and in winter no less. Cold is not the word to properly describe what my "manhood" felt for my swim in the icey Kondoma river. I went in with a manly voice and came out sounding like Michael Jackson. That wouldn't have been too bad if "Billy Jean" was my lover in Siberia. My friend's Alec and Kostya took great care of me and really tried to have me meet someone, a lady friend when i was there. But sleeping with someone when you've just met them is very uncomfortable for me. I mean....what do you say in the morning or after the physical encounter? This leads me to the subject of this blog. We are all adults, and although there are many playing games from both sides here i can honestly say that i have encountered a handful of kind classy women. I am sure there are more here but i don't write to many people. I like to concentrate on one person. Tour companies for men will tell men to plan on meeting 2 or 3 ladies in case one doesn't work out or is fake. Still i am stubborn and stick with just one. Since my divorce i have had one partner. That was 2012.for 2 years and that was after months of online communication and lots of Skype calls. We had lots of talk about forms of birth control, about long kisses or short kisses, about dancing the night away or spending a calm night together the first night and then watching the sun rise. We talked about her 2(TWO) children and them meeting me also when we were by the Black sea. Picture this...i live on an island that is world class for it's beaches and wild horses, and the history of America started right here...this tiny island chain....but i flew all the way to Kiev and then took a slow, old, dirty train to Evpatoria and to the sea. My island...multi million dollar beach houses, there, best room in prime summer was $ 45 a night. In the USA, $280 a night. And then there is food and amusements. I enjoy travel where others might not go but more importantly i traveled to surprise her because i was already in love! Yes...online, hundreds.of hours of talking and her English was not really that good. But her eyes spoke to me. So our first night together was explosive in every way. That is the question i am asking here to the ladies and the real men. Do you make love to someone you know like your neighbor but an ocean separates you, or do you behave like nervous kids? For us...it was immediate embrace and deep kiss. I held her daughter who just started to walk and put her son on my shoulders because i had met them too, online of course. Please, and i am serious, i would love to have a woman on this site give an opinion on this. Sex on the first night after months of deep intimate talk and family introductions, or do you wait and begin like all those months never happened? In the end her ex husband would not agree to let her children come to the USA and i could not leave my son in the USA either. We split painfully but on good terms. I understand now she is doing well with a good man and i am happy for her. No i am not still in love with her but i can always keep those memories close to me. I don't hate or erase or delete or block someone i once loved. That seems almost inhuman to me. But if she cheated or i cheated or one of us hit the other one then yes, we would be done on bad terms. Ladies....what would you do if you met a man here, you saw each other, he got your contact information from the site, and you began to talk daily or all night for weeks until a real meeting? I always have said that perfect love to me is not meeting someone in the middle...like 50/50 but I go 100% to please her and she goes 100% to please me, we breathe the same air for the first time and we just know....we just know in 5 minutes if this person is someone you will love and desire right then! I don't mean that if i meet someone here that i expect sex on the first night or even share a bed, but i do mean that i do not declare that i will just act like a total stranger on a first date. If we had other ways to talk then she would have already seen my house and the ocean near my house over video. That is what i seek and that is the heart of my topic and questions! Can you become so close to someone that you forget the ocean is between us? Can you just picture i am out of town for work and will come home to the newness of real love? I personally can. Maybe i am an old fool but chemistry is something that is instant or not. So i am done for now but PLEASE write your opinion. I sincerely want to know a woman's point of view so i can be a better man. Thx and have a safe and prosperous New Year.