Yes, ladies and gents, we all should know the Beach Boys. They are West Coast guys, and I live on a small East Coast island. Still we all have the same wants and needs, with just a few core things separating us. Ladies and Gents reading, as in a post by Ken:52112 I am talking about the serious people here. I 100% understand that ladies want to feel sexy and want to memorialize those moments. But my fear is that some site's have become sites for high profile browsing of really attractive women. I am SUPER pleased that just a few ladies read my last blog and did respond. And even better, input from a fellow Western man. Canada and the USA have a long and great joint past and it's good to read that someone agreed with my very sincere and common sense questions about actually seeing the lady we are chatting with. Again I point out that I honestly DO NOT BELIEVE for even a second that these lovely ladies have no access to the internet with an actual camera. To keep it real, my much older mother switched from an old flip phone to a smart phone. She is in her late 60's! My stepfather that is even older plays card games on a smart phone. But I have been told time and time again that smart phones are such a rare thing in the Ukraine. First, Ken, my fellow site member from Canada, I have been to the Ukraine and Russia for work and for vacation. I have a large number of really great friends there and even some of their children have smart phones with a camera. Yes...children! I will pour my praise on Polly in customer service here for her willingness to help with these common sense and maybe(for some ladies)....trivial things that we men notice over and over and OVER! It would be fair for me to say that I have never chatted here with a woman that had video and had her respond to me singularly. I mean, she was chatting with multiple men while trying to focus on me. How is that possible and, I ask, how would a woman here feel if she was invited to chat and encountered a man that was preoccupied with chatting with many other women? I have walked the streets in those countries and I can say with certainty that the ladies do have smart phones and do want individual attention when they know that we men want to give it. To be even more clear, these Romance tours set up by websites where the women come to meet maybe 20-30 men and there are 100 plus ladies there. This also doesn't seem fair to the ladies. Many sites RECOMMENDED to me personally to have a main woman ready to meet and have 2 more ready just in case things go wrong. What the heck happened to spontaneously meeting someone ? If I as a man cannot alter my gaze away from one person to another when that person doesn't show up, then I probably should not be there at all. Imagine...we men always say that we are intimidated by the amount of beautiful ladies here, but if we make the trip then we can probably shift our gaze to someone that shows real interest. I do often follow my base animal instincts and delete the really professionally done images. Just the other day I got a message from SOMEONE at 9 am US standard time. That means the person sending me the message was awake at 4 a.m. and had perfect makeup and hair and clothes. 4 am? 4 am? My educated guess is that these messages were coming from someone paid to be there and the one picture that was attached actually had the words "PREVIEW" written right on the bottom. This picture was a stock image from some modeling agency that was likely stolen and posted for me. I emailed Polly at the site admin and the next day I got a rather guilt riddled message from the woman in the pics. Her words...."I guess I can drive 1 or 2 hours to a cold office for you to see my eyes for a few minutes." WOW...SUCH ENTHUSIASM made me feel really moved!! ;) I am joking. I felt like Polly did her job and was MAKING someone prove they were not doing the right thing and then this beautiful woman tried to make me feel guilty for a real common sense topic....actually seeing her in a real live video chat. There is NO DOUBT that men have abused this situation and asked for nude or near nude video chats, but speaking for myself, those men make me sick. Go watch some porn you pigs! To the lovely ladies that may read this and to Ken:52112, thank you for reading this, and to the 3 ladies that expressed that THEY ARE READY AND HAVE A CAMERA JUST FOR ME...i am touched by your honesty and appreciate your effort. To those reading this message, that work for an agency that is an affiliate with this site, GO AWAY! There are women with children here that have a serious goal. They are very few in number but they are here. At age 44, and as a father I fully expect to find a woman that may already have a child. It's OK.....family is like a bonus for me. To have a woman that I am attracted and to make her smile is WONDERFUL,and then to meet her child, and to put a smile on that child's face is a high honor for me. These are obviously 2 very different types of smiles and feelings. One feeling beams from the soul in finding a partner, but then to look at the smile of a child as you take them to a movie or buy them a toy, well..... that is an entirely different feeling and makes the soul smile in another way. The topic of just finding a real person, the challenge of finding a real woman, well....it's immensely difficult. We invest in writing to you and chatting and then when it's time to share our public information suddenly things have the emergency brake applied. Funny..i was there for almost a month and had one lady that went from chatting with me or writing daily, to suddenly being unavailable for an ENTIRE MONTH! IMAGINE THIS MEN AND GOOD WOMEN....THIS PERSON SAYS THEY ARE READY AND SERIOUS AND THEN WHEN IT'S TIME TO BE REAL, TO BREATHE THE SAME AIR, THEY CAN'T SPARE AN HOUR, A BREAKFAST MEAL, OR LUNCH OR DINNER!?? ODD??? Yes it is. I call it a reality check. The reality is that I was going to visit friends in Lviv and then traveled to Odessa, and made sure I had time set aside for any moment...for any chance to meet. Ladies....the fake ones here know I am talking about you...learn a new tactic. This disappearing act is not magic. It's just plain hurtful, dishonest, and makes us lose faith in the humanity that we are all supposed to share. Thx Ken for your opinion and I welcome a woman registered here to add to this conversation. This blog is part of my longer series of blogs about site's like this and I give full credit to most of the ladies at admin. Polly, thank you for your time in my seemingly endless observations about the site. Lastly, site owners or programmers, maybe consider making the chats here available ONLY one on one and maybe ADD to your profile questions "DO YOU OWN A WEBCAM FOR FUTURE COMMUNICATION." Please....give that some deep thought. To all the site members reading this, take care of yourself and do unto others as you would have done unto you :) Warmly, Andy