Here I am again writing another blog post that may or may not get past moderation. It seems I either get lost in the shuffle or don't make it thru the process. Ladies I am not sure how many of you actually read a man's profile before writing but you should. A man usually tries to be honest about his thoughts and feelings, his wants and desires, his hopes and dreams. I say that and I also know that there are some men here who just want to play stupid games with the ladies here hoping to find someone to take part in their unsavory games. I am not one of those and i always do my best to be open and honest when I post here on these blogs and on my profile as well as when I do answer letters and notes sent to me. Most I ignore because if a lady was to read my profile info she would see that I say I have met a wonderful lady here and we are trying to work things out so she can move to Canada. It is really hard for ladies from Ukraine to come here even for a visit because there is a stigma attached to them that they come for a visit and end up staying and becoming dependent on the social system and being a financial burden to our society. My lady wants to move here and get married to me and become a contributing part of our country but we are running into roadblocks. Part of that is the fact that she is not fully accepting my help which makes it harder as well. Her profession is in high demand here and there are several government sponsored programs available that will allow her to get here but agencies in your country are not using them. My point of all this rambling is twofold. Ladies if you do wish to move to be with someone then you should be willing to accept help from your man. He is more of an authority than you are or your agency/lawyer is as he is able to have access to all pertinent information available before others can. So trust comes into play here and if you are in love with someone as you say then you should trust that your beau will always do what is right to help you get here. Second and most important is the fact that you should read a man's profile and if you do want to reply to him or write him acknowledge something you see in his information he has shared on his profile so he knows you have at least read what he posted. We all adore attention but if a man says he has found someone then maybe you should not bother. After all would you want your boyfriend writing other women if you thought he was your man? I know it is hard when you use a website such as this but if everyone here was upfront and honest about what they hope to find then this site would be so much better. Ladies you all need to be honest with yourselves and then be honest with men who write you. This goes for men too as well. If you find someone you like and you say you love that person then be loyal to that person and do all you can to make your relationship real. Yes it can be real over the distance but ir is never reality until you are together. I am sorry for the length of my ramble but the words just keep flowing when I start. ^ years of experience here, many letters and blog posts, several close calls with hopes of real love and broken promises and new searches and still I am not sure of what I have but I do pray that what I hope I do have now works out to be reality soon. Thanks for taking the time to read my post and I hope it does pass moderation. Have a wonderful day and God bless you all and hope you all find the love we so frantically search for. Love makes one's life complete, no matter how many years we have lived alone and kept dreaming for.