Thanks for reading. If you've been on this site for a while or any dating site for long you will have had this experience. Someone you believe is interested in you and you in them will suddenly seem to disappear. Your reaction can range from "Oh Well" all the way to "Oh My God What do I do now?" It's a terrible feeling either way. Rejection, even if it's only in your perception, feels like you're somehow less than you were before you started with this person. You know the feeling right? So what can you learn from that experience? Just to be more resolved? More cautious? More disbelieving? How about a different option? Dr. John Gottman, a research psychiatrist in California, along with his wife spent 35 years studying couples. Ones that worked. Ones that didn't. Out of all the research of the Gottman Institute the number one thing they found to be key in successful relationships was something they termed "turning towards". The simple act of acknowledging a "bid" for attention by the partner and literally turning their face towards them. A "bid" could be as simple as "Honey did you see that?" Or "I'm really tired". Each call by a partner for response is the opportunity to either build or deflate the other person and the relationship. Not turning towards as an intentional act was heavily involved in 80+% of the couples studied who ended up divorced. It was so prevalent that within minutes Dr. Gottman could predict with accuracy which couples would or would not succeed. So what does that have to do with the rejection you've felt in Internet dating? Because now you know personally how it feels when someone you hope or believe will be important to you and your future doesn't "turn towards" you. That feeling is what you will give to your future partner if you don't "turn towards" them. If you want a high probability that your next relationship, found here or where you live survives? Learn this simple skill. Make it part of your behavior. Give your success a chance.