I am in a long term and very serious relationship with a lovely lady here. We have said many times how deeply we love each other and how sincere this love we share is. We have become best friends and we would do anything for each other. I am not a child nor am I a naive man. I realize I put a lot of faith and trust in my lady. I trust in her and believe in her. As she does the same with me. We can feel the depth of our love in every word we write to one another. Yet so many of our friends continue to tell us it is impossible to love anyone you have never met in real life. They all seem to have this fixation and ingrained thought that no one can say it is love when two people have not spent a single second together. My lady and I said long before we ever became as close as we have that we do not need to meet someone to know and understand we could fall in love with them. We asked each other, is it the fact we are side by side spending time together that makes us love each other? Or is it knowing one anothers inner souls and personalities that make us fall in love? Is not knowing a person's soul and their personality what makes us desire to be close to them and not the other way around? We both agreed that to know a person inside and learn to understand them without ever spending a single second together is the true depth of our love for each other. There are things that my lady and I have shared in our time together on this site and they are no different then the things two people would share face to face. The honest and sincere opening up to each other. The deep and stimulating conversations that last for hours. The sweet little things that show each other our feelings are real and sincere. Asking all the questions that make us understand one another in every way. Sharing details of our lives we only tell our trusted friends. Making each other laugh and smile with a joke ot two. Reaching that point when you absolutely cannot wait to meet again. To constantly think of each other and miss one another so deeply. To know in your heart this is how you both feel about each other. To forsake all others and commit to only a devoted relationship with each other. To spend your time together planning and discussing every detail of your future meeting. If this is not love then please tell me what is!! No of course there has been no physical contact between us. No there has been no time shared together side by side. I ask you if these things are concrete elements of what love needs to have in order to be real? Is stimulating conversation and time spent getting closer in those conversations not also so very conducive to making love real? Is it so impossible to learn about each others personalities, our inner souls, and our views on life in such conversations? To learn all the subtle things about each other that are read between the lines is also impossible? What is most important to us and what we desire in our partners cannot be learned if we have never met? Why is it our friends seem to be so convinced that my lady and I could not possibly love each other as we say just because we have never met? Yet it is these very same friends that remind us all we talk about is each other. These same friends remind us we are daydreaming again and know it is each other we are dreaming of. Interesting that they see the love that is so apparent between my lady and I and still think it is impossible. Her friends as well as mine have seen the changes in us since we met. Have witnessed the way our focus and determination has changed our way of thinking. But it still remains so hard for them to believe all they see is real love? I might tend to agree with them if my lady and I were to only know each other a few months or so. It has not been just a few months for us. I am very confident in our love and in the time we have spent getting to know each other it has left us absolutely no doubt our love is real. We decided to take our relationship on this site slowly and to spend time learning all we could about one another. Every nuance of who we are, how we think, what we like or dislike has been discussed. All the important decisions on what we see with each other in our future, what we think about a future family, what is most important for us to achieve, all has been discussed. All the little things that two people face to face ask each other have been asked. We have gotten to know each other very closely and we have become best friends. We hide nothing from each other and we talk about everything. Having told my friends the very same things they immediately want to bring up the matter of trust. They ask me "how can you trust her and think she is faithful to you when she is so far away?" The look on their faces said it all when I replied, "How can you tell me you are 100% convinced your partner is faithful to you? You are not with them 24 hours a day 7 days a week. What makes you so sure they are as faithful to you as you seem to think they are?" There is not one friend, male or female, who could tell me they knew 100% beyond a doubt their partner is as faithful and sincere as they want to believe. The point of this is that no matter how we want to believe and think our partner is faithful and sincere we can not be 100% positive. It all comes down to trust! My lady and I have become very close and in this we have found a trust in each other that is unbreakable. We both understand that to trust as we do is also doubted by so many and we are called naive. All in all we chose to let our friends think as they will and simply chalk it up to their own doubts about the love they have. My lady and I share something very unique and so amazing that all those around us simply cannot believe it is possible to have the kind of love we do for one another. We both think it is very possible for two people to fall deeply in love at a distance. We are living proof of such a love. All it takes is faith, trust and a will to make it happen. Is this any different then two people falling in love being so much closer to each other? I would love to hear others thoughts on this and whether you think it's possible or not.