This blog is how I perceive life in general when looking for a spouse. In order to find the one you want to spend your life with I believe these are the events that occur. 1. You first have to meet here and start to be friends. Find out about each other, likes and dislikes, things you agree and disagree on. As a result of this, you become friends. 2. You then plan a face to face meeting. I know this can be hard because of distance between you, but if you want to move on from friendship, this is a must. After meeting and having several dates, it may lead to a relationship or you may just remain friends. 3. As you date more and get more comfortable with each other, I believe that love begins to grow and grow and that is what you both are looking for. As love grows, desires also grow and since I am kind of an old fashion kind of guy, I think you have to try to fight the urge to have sex. Kissing, hugging and cuddling are ok. After all that is all part of falling in love. 4. Sex and Marriage are kind of combined package. Some people think you should have sex before marriage and some after. I actually believe it is up to the man and woman involved and the final decision is up to the woman. It might be nice to see each one naked before marriage so you get no surprises, but it is not mandatory. This is the final step and if all the prior steps are done in order, I believe you will meet the love of your life and live together forever. I do not know if you all will agree with me, but this is how I see a successful marriage is formed and made. thekid (Carl)