Thanks for reading. Since I've been on this site I've been asked this question several times by different women. It's usually via a chat request so I don't answer. That doesn't mean I didn't understand the question or that I'm not acknowledging the woman who sent it. One thing the ladies here should understand is that this site is expensive lol. So just because a man doesn't respond immediately or doesn't seem to show any interest isn't the end of the story. We can be pretty selective when we choose to be. There are a lot of beautiful women on this site. Most of you are. Many could well grace the covers of international fashion magazines or be featured in the pages of Playboy and fit right in. The only other place in the world that has women who would rival you is Colombia but I'm a little prejudiced about that. My daughter-in-law is Colombian and gorgeous so you'll have to forgive me for thinking that lol. So what is it men want? Let's get the obvious out of the way - sex. It is THE primary drive in men. We can control it, suppress it or even try to ignore it but it's who we are. Some ladies here have said men here can be rude or too aggressive. I hope that hasn't happened to you. If it has please forgive us. But is wanting sex our only drive? Some studies have shown that when a relationship ends it is actually the man who takes it harder. We may cover it up by chasing other women or acting like a tough guy but it hits us hard. We get vested in a woman and losing them can be hard. So what does that mean on the front end of a relationship? When we approach you we're looking for something real. It may be an awkward approach (we're not all Casanovas) or it may feel harsh or even overtly sexual but in the end we want a real connection. After years of not having that we may seem impervious to emotions or even sentimental feelings of love but we wouldn't be here if we didn't want real. There are always going to be guys looking for a trophy wife or arm candy but often it's because they lost the real thing or never knew what to do with it when they found it. As men we're raised to be strong and not show feelings so sometimes we end up being emotionless by the time we meet you. But that can change. So keep in mind that although we may love your pics and want to talk about sex (#1 drive remember?) keep in mind that when it's all said and done we want the real you. If for no other reason than that we know if things work out we'll see how you look in the morning lol just as you'll see us. That's real life.