Firstly you must acknowledge the fact life will always be about two things. The trials we face and how we choose to face them. Not all trials are negative and even very happy moments leave us making choices how we cope and go on. I think a vast majority of us have lost love at one time or another. The hardest part is not blaming yourself or falling into a world of self doubt. We cannot cling to the past or events that have shown themselves to be unfixable or resolvable. What happens in life happens and letting these events stop us or hold us captive is not going to get us anywhere in the future. I understand all to well about losing someone I thought was going to be a part of my life for a very long time. I moped around like a lost puppy for months. Felt self pity and often made those around me miserable because I chose to wallow in sadness and sorrow. I was approached by a very close friend and was told point blank, you need to stop acting like the world has come to an end for you and realize you are better then this. This person who walked out of your life made a choice. Now it is time you made a choice. Stay miserable and alone or put it behind you and move on. She was right. I let a person who obviously did not love or want me bring my life misery. It took a lot of effort and self reflection on my part. But I soon came to realize that to bring my past into any possible future relationship was truly unfair to whom ever this next person in my life may be. We simply cannot place such mistrust, doubt or blame on the next person who wishes to become a part of our lives. Yes we can be cautious and more aware of things. But being fully aware this person has done nothing to us must be our main focus. Think about it. Perhaps this person has also gone through the same as us and is looking for someone who can be a friend and not someone who is constantly wondering if and when they will do what the last one in our life did. I found a very dear woman on this site and we spent many months getting acquainted. And over time we became very best friends and we are now planning to meet and discuss our future marriage. All in all It may sound a bit cold to say this. The person who chose to walk away from you is not worth the time and effort of your sadness and misery. Put it away and move on. Find someone who is worth your time and effort of your smiles and happiness. I chose not to talk to my friends openly and for this I was wrong. Instead of listening to them and seeing their advice was sound I chose to push it away and say they just don't know what I was going through. They did know and I just did not want to listen. If you trust your friends and family then don't shut them out. Be open minded and really listen to all they say. You may not like what they say but give their words time to really sink in before you simply dismiss them.