Hello! Hi Oly! I write this blog for Oly and for all those girls who made mistakes in the desire to attract his attention. I know that my blog will not be the best, twice in a row you do not become the lady of the month. But it's not the point. I am always honest and sincere in my reasoning. As soon as I saw Oly's blog, I immediately decided to give an answer. You are probably the most handsome and young man on this site. You must not leave the site without meeting your love! You have a great sense of humor and a positive outlook on many things. You do not write vulgarity and do not send candid photos. You are just a cool guy! Of course, everyone gives himself the terms of the search for love, but this is a feeling that you will not buy and will not meet when you want! There is a saying "man proposes, God disposes". And that makes a lot of sense. As for the main mistakes of girls on a dating site in attempts to attract the attention of men, they are: 1. Negative past experience. Oly, you are absolutely right that you cannot transfer past experience into a new relationship! Men are owners and do not want to know what came before him! And if you tell about this, then do not be surprised when he remembers this for you. 2. Girls who think that by writing a vulgar invitation or sending a letter with a very candid photo will receive extra points in competition with other girls! You're wrong. In this way you will attract only five-minute men who, "having super pleasure" from talking with you, will go to another girl forgetting your name. And serious men can intentionally provoke you on such topics to understand how much you are worth? True sexuality is a condition! And a man can get carried away with you even if you are in a sweater, which covers your neck! Men are hunters. They want to get you! Where has it been seen so that the prey goes directly into the hands of the hunter without any effort? Is it maybe this stupid and sick animal?... :) 3. Girls with a "trailer". These are girls with children who knowingly lower their bar because of children. It is not true that men seek a woman without children. There is a fine line not to look for a father for a child, but primarily to look for a husband for yourself and a friend for a child! Men are more likely to trust more to a woman with experience and responsibility for a child than a young carefree girl. Of course, if their search is serious enough. 4. The same type of profiles. Girls! What is your highlight??? Tell us about it! Show yourself to the world! Why are the profiles of most girls written in the same way? It is difficult for a man to see your subtle mental organization if you filled your profile with standard phrases. How will he feel you through hundreds of kilometers? Show all your virtues. Perhaps you have a unique hobby? 5. The promise of a meeting! Invites like "I'm in your city", "Let me come," etc. they are fed up with them! Why do you think that having written a similar phrase, a man will want to continue communication with you?? Yes, maybe the first time you have a conversation, and later he wants to confirm your words, and suddenly you will find a reason to refuse! You will break the confidence of men and will not be in the best light. Men complain that girls promising meetings do not come or even drop them at the airport... be careful with this! 6. Photos in the profile. It is very good that this site began to remove too candid photos from the profiles of girls. Why show yourself in underwear? Does a serious man pay attention to a girl who is too liberated? What if she is like that in life? Men care about your upbringing and manners. A real lady will not show herself in an unsightly light. Of course, if you are not a model for men's magazines that is looking for Hugh Hefner... Unfortunately, he has already died so he will not invite you to his chic mansion to be his next playboy bunny.. 7. To be an interesting conversationalist you need... to be interested in a man. Stop telling about yourself, what kind of person you are and what you have achieved! Talk about a man. Being interested by another person you discover his "new" personality. Men are primarily looking for a wife, girl, friend. They don't really care if you work at the store or you are the CEO. They are tired of too material women and run from them to Slavic women whose life goal has always been a family. 8. Men are created differently. Before they know your "soul" they look at your appearance. Physiologically, men regard a woman as a partner for sex. Therefore, if he wrote to you, congratulations, he wants you! Even if he is a professor for whom appearance is not important but only your soul! It's a lie! Be realistic. Therefore, starting communication with serious philosophical topics such as "what love is for you", "when you want to get married", "you dream about children" from the first letters will not cause interest. To start talking about it, you need to pass the barrier of external attractiveness. He saw the appearance, he is hooked. What's next? There is nothing sexier than intelligence. Become an interesting woman who has both pros and cons. Stop writing patterns and philosophy. Of course, if you are a person, not a robot, a stamping machine for patterns! By the way, I advise you not to spam men with letters of the same type if he never answered you or stopped responding. Do you really care about the attention of men who are not interested in you? 9. Your webcam is everything! Have you seen how many girls are with a webcam? Very little. Try to turn on your webcam. Unfortunately, I "sin" with this. Very little time for communication and always a phone nearby. Perhaps I will learn to turn on the camera from the phone. Anyway, smile! A smile is the first thing that attracts and disposes a person. If you have a super photo, but on the camera "in real life" you are boring pinocchio, then the man will perceive that he is an unpleasant interlocutor for you! And leave you. Men go on pleasant emotions. They do not want to listen to your problems and look at the sour expression on their faces. Perhaps they had seen enough of this in their previous marriage? Hm. 10. Ugly Photoshop. Girls, why to disfigure yourselves with Photoshop filters? Of course, now is the era of instagram and various filters to be "perfect". But the man is looking for a real partner. There is a big chance to disappoint him at a real meeting and also make him laugh if he is a little more careful to consider that the pixels blurred in the contours of your thin waist and magnificent chest and touched the background. This is miserable. Really. Take it away. So, I brought TOP 10 how to make a man not run away from you, but on the contrary fascinated even more. Had arrived. Fell in love. Wedding. Children. Divoooo ....rce... Um, no, there will be no divorce. If you adjust your attitude towards life. And as Oly wrote, be more positive! Oly be happy. Peace to all of you. Alla