Guess what, Darling? We men, who really want serious love and not just a playmate, want the same things you women do. The hardest thing is the 'connection', after finding the right person. After having been betrayed, it's so hard to trust again! We know we should leave all that baggage in the past where it belongs, But it's somehow become ingrained on our souls. How could we, who have worked so hard to build this family, even begin to believe viable reasons for this destruction? We cannot, because there is no viable reason, no right one. And I care not what you come up with for a reason, it's wrong and does not exist. No betrayal has a good reason for existing; there are none and it's just that simple. You have always had the option to present a problem to your partner before you do anything wrong, and work it out. Of course, it involves communication and honesty! But even though you may not come to the desired conclusions for both parties, and one or both may be hurt, you will have done the right thing. Even if you split and move on, you will not have the terrible, black smirch of lost honor on your record, if you do it right! Things change, people change and we all know this whether we want to admit it or not. People do not always grow forward together or in the same direction and this is so important to any relationship; it's necessary!!! Talk, always talk with your partner! Be sure to grow in the same direction, and always show your love extravagantly. Men, just soak her with your love and you women, do the same. You cannot express your Love too much, but over 75% of us do it too little and not often enough! There's no way to stress the communication and expression of Love enough, or too much! I leave you with those thoughts and wish you best of everything. Your relationship depends, not on Luck,...but on Love!!! It's all up to you! Ray.