Being lied to by someone you love and felt you could trust is very painful and frustrating.
You love your partner, so you find yourself forgiving his/her lies the first time, perhaps the second
and third time as well, before you realize you are just involved with a liar. However, because you
feel strongly for this person, it is not easy for you to break away, even though you know that is
probably what is best for you. You hang on, with hope that things will change and he will not lie to
you anymore. You justify staying with him by telling yourself that he is a good person and deep
down you know he loves you- and that your relationship is wonderful and perfect- except when he
lies.
What you need to ask yourself when this happens is: Do you consider a wonderful
relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar your idea of love and
respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone, it is not always easy to ask and answer
these logical questions. You often will make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better
about staying with someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is
because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as you would like to
believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies- little ones and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no
matter the size or reason for the lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little
things that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that he/she will lie to you about
bigger things that will really matter and damage the relationship.
Lets be honest to each other and respect each other. If you are not serious with your partner,
just give him or her the chance to find his/her real love!