1. The mirror test about being fair. Everyone and their dog will have better opinion about what decision you should make and how things should be done in your personal life and at work. Good for them lol) But end of the day, a decision has to be made and you make it like nobody else can. When you make a decision, you should look in the mirror before announcing it to your household or subordinates at work. Do not believe that making decisions is the prerogative of men. Each family member has an opinion, like every employee, so you must weigh the pros and cons. A good way to speak this decision is by looking at yourself in the mirror and asking important questions: "Measure if I was right or wrong by a hard look in the mirror......was I true to my beliefs....what I think is right.....not my boss, not my people.....me. was I authentic????" So, look in the mirror, if you like what you see then you are good! 2. Listen and learn! So many leaders listen to their own counsel and nothing else. It is an arrogance derived from being chosen to a position of leadership: "I am special, more important, the thoughts of others are irrelevant". That thinking is a path to failure. Whether you like it or not, your new job is going to divert your energy away from the details of "what furniture should we put in that place" and the best people on your team will probably have better ideas about the answer because they have spent more hours thinking specifically about that question that you have. And this also applies to family life. When you see nothing but your "ego", then this is a problem. You will not be able to listen to your family and relatives. And this is the beginning of the end. When you stop hearing each other! So, listen to your people! 3. In public. If something does not work or goes wrong it is my fault. I didn't train, I didn't explain, I didn't monitor, what ever the case, its my fault. You should learn to analyze your actions and your choice and do not look for the guilty. Fix it, look for a way outIf things go right. If you still notice that your loved ones or subordinates are doing something wrong and the problem is brewing. You must explain it to them, direct them on the right path. Do not be silent! Chat with your people. Silence is clearly not a quality of a leader and will not help you in family life. You need to talk to each other, discuss everything that you don’t like, or say "thank you" for someone who did something well. So, avoid the common phrases, say only truth! Praise in public and admonish in private. What can be done at the very end. The main thing is that everything should be in harmony with yourself. No need to break yourself, remodel, adapt to the situation. Create your future now!