The paradox of passion: why in a relationship one partner always loves more. What is the problem? Lovers very often fall into the trap of passion. It occurs when one partner gives more emotions than the second. Moreover, the dependence becomes inverse: the more the first partner loves, the less the second. Dean Delis, clinical psychologist and best-selling author of The Paradox of Passion, tells about why harmony in relationships is broken. He created his theory based on personal experience and medical practice, examples of which he assigns to a large number of pages of his book. Why does one partner become strong and the second weak? One of the partners takes a weak position when he is afraid to be refused. Usually at the beginning of a relationship, both have such feelings. But the weaker ones are trying harder to like: preen, give expensive gifts, arrange surprises, seek to please, are actively interested in everything that the partner is interested in. Their goal is to gain emotional power over the second half. And if they succeed, they will change in quality: a strong partner falls in love more and becomes weak himself. And the one who was initially weak becomes strong, because there is no one to conquer and his passion begins to fade. As Dean Delis notes, a trap of passion can manifest itself at any stage in the development of relationships, when one partner becomes addicted, and the second begins to annoy and repel such his behavior. Is there a trap of passion in every way? Relations are not static, but dynamic. They are constantly changing, therefore, there is a risk of falling into a trap. The first feelings of falling in love with people are the same: an excited state and a “loss of head." The person is in a state of euphoria and fear of rejection is the main reason for obsession and jealousy. Until a person is convinced of the partner’s love, she feels powerlessness, passion inflames her, she counts the minutes between meetings and draws attention to the slightest shades of behavior. Declaration of love is a very risky step and is decided upon when the partner shows a list of encouraging hints. If he answered the recognition and both partners are confident in each other's love, a harmonious relationship ensues. Do you think it is possible to avoid this or are we all doomed?)