What is the main thing in relations between a man and a woman? In fact, this is a very difficult and double-digit question. On the one hand, in relations between a man and a woman, and even more so - a husband and wife, there are no trifles at all. Every detail is important there, because in certain circumstances it can play a critical or negative role. On the other hand, on the contrary, if there is no understanding of fundamental and profound things that can unite, then the implementation of thousands and hundreds of little things will still, by and large, give nothing to strengthen relations. Therefore, it’s better to say this. For each couple, the main thing in a relationship is something different. Better I will focus on the more subtle things. You probably also heard, or maybe you yourself once accepted, the expression: "did not agree on the characters." People who talk about this most often mean that the relationship between two people is in crisis precisely because, due to certain personal characteristics, their nature is stronger than feelings and the ability to build healthy relationships. Partners, like two hard stones, cannot adapt to each other's needs, for the sake of a common goal. Therefore, having such a wonderful argument, they decide to part or break up. So..... The main truth of the relationship between two people is that people are not stones that cannot be crammed together. Each of us is a piece of clay in the hands of ourselves and the circumstances that surround us. Therefore, to say the phrase “did not agree with the characters” is the same as saying: “my selfishness is much more important for me to be with you.” Is the similarity of characters a prerequisite for a good common future? No, of course. We do not know how it is born and grow love is in our heart, because it is something from the realm of metaphysics, and not just the action of dopamine and serotonin, however, I also have no doubt that love is primarily a volitional act, conscious work or the task that poses the man in front of him.