One psychotherapist even jokingly suggested abolishing the word "Love" and using "X" instead. After that, find out what this “X” means: “I want you”, “I want to have you for a wife”, “I want to get married to take care of you and our children all my life” or “I want you to get married I cared about me "," Now you hold me ". In practice, of course, it is difficult to imagine such sober thoughts of romantic lovers, but revealing and realizing their individual myth of love will greatly expand their own ability to love. That is, to go beyond one's own conception of love and perceive at least partially the views of another. Another dangerous myth about love is that it can only be given to us by another person, that is, we get it from outside. It turns out that the “loved one” is the one with whom we feel love, and because of the absence of which, we suffer. All the songs about it: "I cannot live without you!". However, a condition where a person suffers from a lack of something external is called addiction. You love not the person, but the feelings that arise in her presence. This is, at best, a love affair when we know almost nothing about anyone yet, but we like the lofty state of dating. Love does not idealize, it implies the acceptance of another, already well-known person as he is. In it, much more attention is paid to the other than themselves. One of the definitions of love is “conscious devotion”. And conscious means voluntary, so it is something completely different than neurotic addiction. We do not try to adjust the other to our expectations (we are a subject, he is an object), but by changing our roles, we do not please the beloved all the time to the detriment of his own self for fear of losing him. Another dangerous myth about love is that it can only be given to us by another person, that is, we get it from outside. It turns out that the “loved one” is the one with whom we feel love, and because of the absence of which, we suffer. All the songs about it: "I cannot live without you!". However, a condition where a person suffers from a lack of something external is called addiction. You love not the person, but the feelings that arise in her presence. This is, at best, a love affair when we know almost nothing about anyone yet, but we like the lofty state of dating. Love does not idealize, it implies the acceptance of another, already well-known person as he is. In it, much more attention is paid to the other than themselves.         One of the definitions of love is “conscious devotion”. And conscious means voluntary, so it is something completely different than neurotic addiction. We do not try to adjust the other to our expectations (we are a subject, he is an object), but by changing our roles, we do not please the beloved all the time to the detriment of his own self for fear of losing him.        Love is not money, it cannot be gained or lost. It is the feeling of free mature personalities.