**Food Storage** Food preservation was minimal prior to modern refrigeration (and freezing) in cifilization. If you wanted to keep food from spoiling, you had to somehow cure the meat through some kind of method that both cooks and seasonss the meat to have a longer life in the cabinet or shed. Modern food manufacturing and distribution no longer requires the extended duration food preservation means of the past. They rely upon modern refrigeration and freezing in order to make a decently good menu item, package it, and deliver it to the store where you can buy the food, take it home, heat and eat it. Food lasts a lot longer in this frozen state. Frozen food is decently tasty for those that do not know the basics of cooking and it represents a good value. **Frozen Food*** However, as convenient and as inexpensive as frozen food is, it lacks a real random variety. For each manufacturer, there is a limited number of variety of the product. It isn't like home food where you pick the food in the refrigerator and make from what you have. For example with frozen pizza, there is usually only about a few different kinds of pizza offered: plain cheese, sausage, pepperoni, three-meat (sausage, pepperoni, and ham), and supreme (sausage, pepperoni, green peppers, black olives, tomatoes, and onions). Each time you buy one of these, it is the same as the last time you bought it. Same pizza, same pizza, same pizza. Buy a different maker's pizza .. and you see their kind of sameness. Their cookie-cutter assembly line excellence does not measure to become exellence in your life that seeks variety. **Frozen Sandwiches** You can also buy frozen breakfast sandwiches. They usually have either a biscuit, english muffin, or bagel cut in half to become the bun of a sandwich that will have probably egg and cheese with ham, bacon, or sausage. That's it. Same sandwich. Same frozen food. Over and over. **Fresh and Unique Breakfast Sandwich** Attached to this post is two of my breakfast sandwich masterpieces of the past. Yes, I cook. That is in my profile. In the upper-left corner photo a sandwich, never be found in the frozen food department of a grocery store (definitely not the other sandwich either) I made it from a slice of grilled frech bread, with egg, slices of cheese, sausage, bacon, and I think ham is in there as well. The next day, I made something different. Variety. I realize this breakfast sandwich is a man's kind of sandwich. At the time, I did not have a woman in the house to make an omelette. I also included a photo of another breakfast sandwich masterpice. It is basicallly a sausage and cheese omelete on a grilled roll. Plus there are photos of two different omelettes with vaerious fruit of different color and variety. All different. Never the same. This never tempts sameness and lack of excellence. You can even see some of the seasonings I use on the food while I cook it. Nothing left out. **Being Autistic** In no way am I standard issue man. I am not the normal representative of the species. I am autistic. There is a famous movie with Dustin Hoffman and Tom Cruise made in 1988 called "Rain Man". The character that Dustin Hoffman played was autistic. He was an autistic that was severely limited in the things he could do. His life was fully patterned with regular activities. His life was literally frozen food with no variation. The one thing that made him different was his ability to remember things and do math quickly. Compared to that character, I'm like Dustin Hoffman's character being autistic. I am a high-functioning autistic. I do not require the same patterned frozen food life every day as he did in the movie. I can function in the outside world with a job. I can do different things of variety. The one thing I'm not so good at is social cues. Like I said in a previous post, I do not pick up on social cues unless there is visible or audible evidence that I can recognize to tie the messagee sent to me. For this reason, I'd probably never talk to you on the street. Never go to a dance to see you to ask you to dance. I do not normally put myself in places where there are a lot of people. I try to blend into the background. I like people. I do not seek to meet people because they will gain and take advantage of me because I do not pick up on the social clues given for me to know to not trust them. However, my one gift is pattern recognition. I can spot a pattern (and it's repititions) from a long distance away. I remember patterns and formulas that I can see. I am good at math. Better than everyone I know. I sometimes lose a decimal place when multiplying and dividing. Yet, I know when patters of things repeat. Easily. **Online Dating** I was separated from my ex-wife in January 2017 after 20+ years of marriage. We were divorced in 2019 giving us a total married time of 25+ years. Since then, I've been on MANY datring site as I feel it is good way to increase the quantity of women to be exposed. I know my lady is out there somewhere. Many, sad to say, were scammers. All they wanted was to take money. They would use any means possible to pull at your heart strings to con you out of money. Claiming parents are now dead and they need to buy a coffin, or they are sick and need money for the doctor or drugs, etc. With the scammers easily put to the side, the real women stand out. Generally, the real women write the same profile. You all have deep feelings (men know that), you want a strong shoulder to learn on and feel protected (men known that), you want to be the muse of your man's creative life (men known that), you love family (men known that), you probably love shopping (men really know that), you love to make a clean home with harmoney (men know that), and you are wildly passionate in bed for your man (men know that). All of that is known .. and frozen food to us men. Rarely is anything outside of those general statements is in the profile or is in the letters written. If I had to put a number on it, I'd say that 99% of all profiles are predictable frozen food. And 98% of all letters are also frozen food. **Why talk about Frozen and Fresh Food here on Dating Site?** Simple, frozen food to the person that is expecting frozen food is good at best. Over time it becomes plain. If the hungry customer in a restaurant receives frozen food, the patron will likely be very upset as fresh food is expected. They know they can go to the grocery store and get the same item. At the restaurant, they expect variety, atmosphere, and excellence every visit. A good server will season the talk with the table of hungry customers so that every table of customers is special. What I do not know about the woman-side of dating sites is how much of an auto-pilot process is done for you. I'm sure you write your own words (for the letters). But there is little or no customization (seasoning) and variety of the letters received. Many times I receive the same exact letter from you with the same subject line. Sometimes the same letter has a different subject line. The letter will often have a frozen food feel to it where none of your heart was invested to warm it up.. Sometimes I feel like I'm a passenger on a ride at DisneyLand with the tour guide just going through the script and motions of describing the next alligator that is about to quickly approach the boat. I am expecting fresh. All I get is frozen. So very frustrating. Hundreds of letters I have received have given me only three sentences of seasonings. Seasonings are the things you can find in my profile (or blogs) that I write. With thousands upon thousands of words written to me in letters, probably twenty words have been seasonings. That tells me you have no regard for how I feel. That tells me you have no respect to give me anything special. This would be like a waitress at a restaurant that slams food down onto the table with a harsh tone of voice saying: "Eat your dam food!" Commanding the customer to eat the food that obviously is both frozen not lovingly served. If you wonder why I do not reply, this is one of them. So far, you have not given me a reason to reply to the frozen food I've been given lacking any seasoning. How do think a hungry customer would respond to frozen food? "How is your food?" I would respond: "Your food keeps me from starvation. There is nothing remarkable for me to taste and remember to repeat for a next time." **Frozen Chats** Chats are much the same. I do feel that chats are more auto-pilot here on the dating site than email. The email has a system built-in to use drafts (pre-written letters) you can use over and over. Chats, I think has a series of favorite phrases of text that you choose and then every so often, when you are logged in, it sends one to me. It may be every few mintues. It maybe several hours in between. It is always in the same order. Yes, I read every chat message you send. When I see you send chat messages that you've previously sent and I notice the pattern you are sending, I know that you are on auto-pilot sending frozen food. You may even only chat to me once a day. When I see it, and I recognize it was the same one you've sent to me in prevous days, I know you are on auto-pilot. Definitely no seasoning. No variety. No regard for me. Completely void of emotion. Tell me, if you walk in a cafe, do you ALWAYS interact with the people behind the counter the same? Do you say the same things? Do you smile the same? Do you introduce new things into the conversation over days? Or is it just frozen talk. Same talk. No variety. Why am I any different than the person behind the counter at the cafe or the hungry customer in the restaurant? One thing I will do, when you ask a question in chat (and email) that doesn't seem like it is a frozen question, I capture it and put it in a file with your ID. In the event that you give me enough of these, I'll eventually reply to you with the answer in email. I first have to have fresh things to talk about. Not frozen.