I humbly believe this post is in the interest of all women, and men, on this site. / A woman will remember a first kiss more than she will remember losing her virginity and other big life moments. Make that kiss one worth remembering. / Kissing releases a flood of feel-good hormones. / You can learn to give a great first kiss. / 6. IS SHE MORE THAN A HOOKUP? Reading a Woman’s True Profile / Oxytocin can cloud your judgment and lower your fear response. It is the bonding hormone that gets released during org*** and from affection. That’s why platonic s** is an oxymoron. / Limerence is that first stage of attraction or love during which you obsessively think about the other person, can’t sleep, feel highly sensual, and are high on love. / The cascade of hormones flooding your body during limerence can cause you to ignore the warning signs or red flags in any potential relationship. / You can be attracted to someone because of your hormones or because of imprinting from your first 18 months. Ask yourself why you might be drawn to a particular woman, and stay aware of your conscious and unconscious motivations. / A woman is more than a hookup if you feel a connection in body, mind, and heart. / If there’s no physical connection or chemistry at first, there never will be (sure statement?). / Making Love to a Woman / 7. IMAGE IS EVERYTHING Understanding How Women View Their Bodies / A woman is exposed to hundreds of ads a day that tell her what her body is supposed to look like. Women rarely measure up to the ideal standard of beauty portrayed by the fashion and entertainment industries. Let her know she is beautiful exactly as she is. / A woman’s relationship with her body is fragile, and even one “joke” or mean comment about her weight, size, or attractiveness can cut deeply. Good men never criticize a woman’s body. / Men can’t reverse the constant societal pressures to be thin and beautiful, but men can make any woman feel beautiful. / Compliment her. Show her you adore and desire her just as she is. / If a woman has a poor body image or believes you don’t find her attractive, she will not be comfortable with you sexually. / 8. HER BODY IS A WONDERLAND An Anatomy Lesson / A woman’s mind is her most powerful erogenous zone. She needs to feel physically and emotionally safe and connected with you in order to feel aroused and experience pleasure. / The sexual anatomy of a woman is complex. Explore what feels good to her and help her show you what gives her pleasure. / Find her small (but very powerful, sensitive) female organ, and if you can’t find it, ask for directions (Always keep an Atlas of Women on you… (Wink!)). / A woman has various spots—G-spot, A-spot, U-spot—that may be highly charged and erotic for her if touched and stroked the right way. Explore the spots that feel good to her, but don’t pressure her to feel pleasure in any particular spot. Every woman—and every woman’s body—is different. / The erogenous zones of a woman are not limited to her genitals. (The same is true for men.) Any part of her body can be a source of extreme pleasure with the right touch. The skin, neck, ears, lips, shoulders, breasts, back, and thighs of a woman can all be erotic. / Her pleasure will increase your pleasure. / 9. BECOMING HER BEST EVER A Primer on Passionate S** / Forget everything you ever learned from watching porn. / Long before you get into bed together, you can begin to make love to your partner by building anticipation and creating a sense of possibility and inevitability. Text, flirt, suggest, and build passion before you even touch. / Every time you are sexual, you tell a story about who you are, who she is, and who you can be together. Make the story amazing. / Most men have a pretty familiar routine—kiss the lips, touch the breasts, touch the small female organ (maybe) or the female canal, and insert the male organ. A skillful lover doesn’t follow any set routine. You can make love to every inch of her with your words, lips, tongue, and hands. A good man doesn’t just focus on her breasts and genitals. / Oral s** is a must for pleasing and satisfying a woman. If you don’t like it—get over it (sure statement?). / Most women need stimulation of their small female organ to have an org***. Become best buddies with her small female organ. / A good man also makes love to a woman by holding her after the s** is over. This is a great source of pleasure for women. Making this one last heroic effort (even when you want to go to sleep) will go a long way toward making you her best ever. / Living with a Woman 10. LEARN TO FIGHT LIKE A GIRL Understanding Women and Conflict / Conflict happens—even in the best of relationships.