Men are as different as roses and tulips.Some want a modern day Gal;some want an Old Fashioned Wife who can balance work and home:4 hands are better than 2;2 incomes are better than 1;some men just want a stay at home wife.The example I give is what I want.However,there are a lot of points most men can agree with.

Do you feel you could be the girl next door?You see,it is very hard for me to imagine that such a beautiful woman :1)such as yourself would give me a 2nd look.You see women like you have never given me the time of day ,2)the girl next door is one who doesn't mind working outside the home to earn some money for the family,3)she doesn't mind getting dirty planting flowers or a garden,4)she likes/adapts

In my opion there is a big difference bettwen Making Love and Sex.Love is a beautiful thing and at first it is a feeling.Picture sodium being mixed with water----BOOM!An Explosion occurs!When two people fall in love,there is just the right chemistry that each heart explodes at the same momement but both are scared to say "I Love You" for fear of rejection.However,after this couple get married and have been together for many years this feeling fades.Does this mean you're no longer in Love?If you still care for each other,are there for each other when sick,good times,bad times and if you're willing to get in the mud to fight for what's yours and help each other then LOVE still exist.There will be times you will not have the hormonal hot feeling when you were dating or your early years of marriage.Ifknow in your heart you'd never want anyone else then you've reached a more MATURE level of Love called Committment.


A couples journey into commitment begings with a marriage license, wedding ceremony,and VOWS to each other,God,and witnesses. It's very important to do spur of the moment things too.The husband could send flowers for no reason at all;the wife could fix her man's favorite meal by candelight.However,always have a set day as "Date Night".This is your night to leave the houe,no discussion about work,children but just focus on each other.These "Dates" don'thave to be expensive if all you can afford is a stroll in the park then you're still spending quality time.Other times you may take in a concert,play,movie,or out to eat.The imortant thing is this is ous time.


When two people make love there is passion,fire,emotion,two hearts beating fast as one.However,sex is just wham bam thank you mam with no emotion.Now I've read a lot of women's blogs about their opion on sex on the first date.Unless you really know this person the woman could be setting herself up for a big heartache now or later.A few ladies feel you should give your prospective husband a test drive.Ok if you like everything about him,his sense of humor,character,personality,but he fails your "Test Drive" are you going to dump him?Suppose he had the time of his life?Let's say you both do but he marries his back-up because he figures if you're this easy then he may not can trust you in a marriage.Worst case is both get married after a night of hot sex.Now suppose,your man comes home,you're tired from a hard day of work,keeping up with the children and he says "Let's make Love."

Your response is "Please another night.I'd love too but my day has been exgausting."

He looks at you and says "That wasn't a question.Now you were so ready,willing and able on our first date you'll do what I say."Next he slaps you to make sure you get the message.Finally,he gets what he wants.Like I said you really need to know the person first.


In a true marriage, at the beging you can't have enough of each other.As time wears on,the pressures of work,ballancing a family budget,raising the children,the couple will be down to once a week making love.However,if they have a more MATURE outlook on what Love really is and it's not always a feeling then this marriage will survive.Writing little notes to each other,phone call during work,Date Night reminds the two of you that one day the children will leave the nest so you're building a relationship now for later down the road.Remember,it started with just you two and possibly her children thus you must look foward that one day everything comes full circle and it's just the two of you.

It's also important to take intrest in each others hobbies.I have seen very few marriages last where husband and wife share no intrest.The hallmark of a Great Marriage is when both are reading on the same page,looking in the same direction,completing each other's sentences.


Last thoughts,like most men on here were divorced and our ex wives took us to the cleaners.Thus we look for a Ukrainian/Russian Wife because they still have Old Fashioned Values about family.These women know how hard it is to build a family as they have their parents as examples.They know marriage is the hardest job you'll sign up for but the most rewarding.Since the men were divorced once they may want a pre-nuptial agreement.This doesn't mean the man wants the marriage to fail but rather it serves as an insurance policy.There are some women who will put on a good front for 3yrs then she gets her "green card" meaning she can live in the US permantely.Thus she might divorce her husband for a younger guy and try to bleed her current husband dry.The pre-nup prevents the wife from bleeding her spouse dry and states exactly what she is entitled.


A letter is a means of communicating.If you ask questions then we as men will answer.However,if we ask questions don't you have some obligation to do the same and not change the subject untill you've amswered his questions?Also,everyone may not be able to do video chat.If the person possess an Old XP(one of the first to come out),Windows 2000,98,95 then video chat is impossible.


I hope this clears up some things.No people are a like thus if someone could write a book on "What Women Want" and "What Men Want" they'd be a Trillioniare.Since every person is different the book has to be written by each other in the relationship.My being an Old Fashioned Southerner who believes in chilvary,romancing,and charming his woman would be different from someone else.

I hope this gives some answers I've been bombarded with and some insight.However,these are my thoughts.Someone else may have another point of view.ned Woman who doesn't mind work and balancing home life,and some just want a stay at home wife.I can only describe what I'd like however there are probably a lot of points in my blog most men will agree with.