I am a mature and serious woman who doesn’t live in a fantasy world. I lived in it many years ago but not now. I understood that it's necessary to discuss as many things as possible before moving forward. Too many people concentrate on love search and forget things that will happen (or not happen) after finding the right partner. There are 3 things we are all should pay attention to. We are on an International Dating forum so things I mentioned before are connected to the relationship between people who live in different countries. So let's start. A thing number one. In what country partners will have a wedding? Sometimes women think that it's an obvious thing. In mine of course! That’s what she may say. But let's not forget than man may not want to have a wedding in a native country of his woman. For different reasons. So it’s a thing which should be discussed beforehand. Actually all the things I mention in my blog should be discussed this way. A thing number two. What will the woman do in another country? Will she have work or her man don’t she want his woman to have a job? Some ladies don’t want to be at home all the time. Some men want to be providers and want a lady to be housekeeper only. People are different so partners should discuss it to avoid problems in the future. And finally…thing number 3. How often will the lady be able to visit her family? Some expect that they will be able to visit the homeland anytime they want. It's not true. Let's imagine that the Ukrainian lady found the man from Australia. Does she really think that she will visit her family every 3 months? It’s another mistake. I guess that almost all men will agree with me that it will be too expensive and inconvenient. I said that I don’t live in a fantasy world and I propose to all people who read this to be realists. Being in love is a wonderful thing but man and woman should do their best to discuss everything they can before moving forward. The blog was written by Darya “The realist”.