Well, 2020 is here, and I wish everyone a Happy New Year, may be this year will finally bring something very rewarding after a difficult end to 2019. So, what do I mean by "When one is not enough, and one of my pet hates." It is simple really, because some of us guys can be loyal from the beginning of a relationship. I mean we can choose someone to communicate and connect with, and we will ignore all others because we want to succeed in our search. ( I often get chat messages asking why I am ignoring someone ) We will forgive some little mis-demeanors and not mention them to the person we have chosen, because we hope in time that feelings will grow and we will feel like a real couple who have found what we seek. We hope that the lady we are talking to will also ignore all others and we will have the harmony in our lives that we seek. But too many times too many women here cannot give the same in return, they will talk to lots of different guys, and still use other sites like this, so I ask you, " if you have become happy with someone, WHY DO THESE THINGS?" It is easy to say that Russian guys are not serious, that they cheat and cannot be trusted, but it seems to me that too many so called ladies are doing the same sort of thing on sites like this with foreign guys who are just trying to be their normal sincere self, who offer trust and openness from the beginning in the hope they have found that special person. So for someone to say to me, " but if you come to me then I know you have chosen me" is not a phrase that fills me with confidence in a person I have been communicating with, if they are still using other sites, because they could have said these words to several guys on several sites. So if there is no trust after a few months, time to stop and move on. Why? Because there are lots of fish in the sea, ( or on another site. ) Paul