I have read both sides of this blog and both parties make sound statements. Being as I'm 54 years old I can relate to all, or a majority actually, of what is being said here. It has been my experience in those places I have lived that the women I became involved with or persued becoming involved with fell into some of the catergories spoken of. I'm a realist and as such understand no one is perfect. We ALL carry around our proverbial "luggage" from the past. I tried to overlook many of the things that shaped the pasts of these women and used my better judgement. Of course I didn't ignore the obvious signs about whether or not any given woman's past may make her a wrong choice to persue an interest in. Let's be real here. No one is going to open up 100% about themselves at the beginning of a relationship. Trust and comfort has to be established. Once we see a person can be trusted with our life and our past, we will, or should, be forthcoming and honest about ourselves. Labeling somebody because of their lifestyle, choice of standards and their past is what makes us all human. Is it right to do this? Most often NO! Who are we to label or judge anyone before we know the what and why of such people.There are so many reasons and circumstances that make each of us who we are. Society makes the rules and we are expected to conform to their ideals. Sadly those who are not "ideal" are so often labeled as trash, unfit, or even worse unacceptable. I am in no way condoning this man's thoughts or words to describe the women he came into contact with. I am actually appalled by his lack of scrutiny when choosing how he describes women of lesser "quality". The underlying reasons for anyone to be what they are is "self-thinking". I cannot speak for any of the women this man describes and only speak of myself. Self-thinking is a direct result of the stimulus of the world around us and what we percieve as being all we deserve from it. Lies, deceptions, and empty promises can and will make anyone believe they are not worthy of so much better then what we have. We put up walls, look for comfort in what makes us feel part of something. We stop trying to become better for the simple fact we don't feel we deserve it. It's men and yes women like the man Angel described in her blog that keeps people from ever thinking they are better then they are in any given moment. I chose to find my future bride away from my own country, my own city for just this reason. A lack of manners and scrupples from those I chose to persue an interest in. People here tend to set a standard, or expectation as it were, about who is worthy of them and who is not.There is nothing wrong in seeking a person who fits our ideals but when those expectations and standards are unfounded and selfish it makes those people the unworthy ones. We were all raised with certain values and standards by our parents and families. As children we accepted them and did not question them. As we became adults we had a choice to make. To use our brain and think whether or not those values and standards were founded. We have the ability to choose what we feel is just and right. To discern whether the values we were taught are hurtful or insesitive to others. In "my" experiences I have seen many times that women around me set their standards higher then a man like me could reach. It dawned on me these women were not looking for real love. They were looking for an easy life and a man who was naive enough to give it to them. They were not interested in what I could give them from an emotional and physical level, but instead sought what I could give them from a material level. I can only base my opinion of the man in Angels blog on what she says, but it seems to me he is just like the women I have encountered. Selfish and materialistic! Sadly the many ladies who were looking for real love were far to damaged by their pasts for me to be a part of their lives. I tried to be a friend, to support them and understand them. It simply was not meant to be. I was tired of being unhappy and alone. My desire to love and be loved seemed to be elusive at best. I was tired of the high standards and selfishness around me. So I came to this site. My reasons are just and I never looked at women around me as lesser then me. I just was not happy with what I was experiencing. When it seemed to me I was not going to find the love I sought in my country I chose to find it elsewhere. This man was a bit harsh in his words and reasons for coming to this site and I hope other women read Angel's blog and see his true colors. I found the love I sought. Found my happiness on this site. Met a woman here who not once judged me or looked at me for what I could give her in material form. We became best friends, fell in love and are simply waiting for her visa to be completed. So she can come see my city and spend time with me. She has never asked me for a thing and has supported me. Has cared about me and given my life both purpose and direction. All those things I simply could not find from the women I encountered in my own country. I did not label these women or look down on them. I simply realized I was not going to find the love I desired in them.