Hmmm... I somehow get this sensation inside me that Tanusik's words are not inclusive to "all" men. Yeah for the most part the writer of this book "Language of Relationships" is on key. I disagree whole heartedly that the phrase "I love you" is misinterpreted by men as to being passion or lust. Men are not the proverbial "thinkers" of our species but not every single man is that confused as to what the word "love" means. In fact I have experienced women being more confused about it then the man in their lives. It kind of confuses me that this writer thinks men are oblivious to love and only see it as a long term obligation! Then to say men only come to realize many years later they are in love? I am a man who knew from the very start whether I was falling in love or just "infatuated" and wanting it to become love. Can anyone ever truly say they were in "total" love with someone from the very start? I think not. Love takes time to manifest and grow. The concept of "love at first sight" is all to often bantered arout. It is for all intent and reasons illogical and goes against the very ideal of what it means to fall in love. I guess what I want to say is if one is going to read the interpretation of another person's view point on a subject. Then one has to also keep in mind that writer(s) are biased to their own logic of that subject. No matter how objective a writer means to be they will always write from within their own opinions. I can say this for the simple fact I have been a writer for many years. Love is an entity that no one can put an exact label upon. What it means to one person is not or may not be the same as another's. We cannot say we "know" what love is and can only say what we "think" love is. What men and women think love is in fact, is based on our own perceptions of it. Love is and will always remain a mystery to us. It's intended to be. We are supposed to all have a difference of opinions on love. It's what adds to the allure and attraction of finding it. So in my own opinion, when we say "I love you" it has many different meanings to each and every person saying it. This stands to the reason I think we all not only have to say we love, but "show" all the reasons why and how we love.