If you're only in it to hit it, then the results of rejection won't last long, and you have nothing to be afraid of. It's normal to fear rejection if you're trying to muster up the words to tell a girl how you feel, though, and you probably shouldn't ever do this if the girl doesn't know you exist. If the girl doesn't know you or you don't know her, and you're just intimidated by her looks, try writing her your introduced letter. That way, you can at least find out more about her and see if your fear of being rejected or invisible to her is essential. If you're already friends with the girl, try to play a game of 20 questions with just her. Just make sure that you make the rules clear: you must answer your questions if applicable, and you each will ask 20 questions. Try to play through chat or text message. It doesn't matter how you play, but 20 items is an excellent way to 1. find out how much each of you has in common. 2. ask questions you usually wouldn't ask, and 3. it will give you a chance to find out how the girl feels about you or a chance to find out if she isn't the girl you thought she was IF one of you ask the right questions. It usually gives you some insight into each other for better or for worse, though.