There are two obvious reasons why we are used to the fact that there is a man in the family as a breadwinner. Biological For a long time, it was predetermined by nature that the male runs and hunts, and the female carries children. To do this, special biological mechanisms are laid in the device of various body systems, including in the brains of individuals, which provide different types of endurance, susceptibility to different stressogens, and most importantly, responsibility for the continuation of the genus and ensuring its survival. Therefore, bias is alarming at the level of biology: "What will happen if I become pregnant (she becomes pregnant)? - We die all." Social. We were brought up like that. The ideal family for our parents is patriarchy. The man is the earner, the woman keeps the hearth. And if they change roles - the man automatically goes into the category of henpecked, who asks for money from his wife, carries out her commands and orders, therefore, "not a man." Can biological fears and social stereotypes be resisted? It is difficult, but if there are good internal reasons and reasonable arguments, it is possible. Remember that the distribution of family roles and responsibilities is your life project, and not a tribute to traditions. If you intuitively feel that everything is fine with your couple, if anxious thoughts and doubts appear only after someone's sympathetic questions or afflictions, ignore the opinions of neighbors and the background of the parental families. Listen to your feelings and arguments that are important to you. Calm down, check together if everything works in the family project as you both want .... Now is the 21st century in the yard and families are different .... In some families, the husband may be on dictation with the children if it is beneficial for the family ... And the wife earn money and provide for the family .... You do not need to let anyone get into the family and say what is right and what is not ... Someone else's advice has not done anything good to anyone ... You need to talk and discuss everything at the family level .... If everything suits you in your family life, then this is right for you ....