They wear rings to try and keep men they don't want hitting on them, so they don't get hit on every second of everyday, I mean look at these beautiful lady's, don't you think for a second every guy guy within a hundred kilometers would hit on them all the time? That has to be a burden to them. as how to stay in love forever, that is not to hard to understand, to stay in love forever you need first to be honest, second to be respectful, third is to try and understand where the other is coming from in any given situation, fourth is never disrespect the other person, don't demean them or try to pull one over on them, remember love is given not taken, respect is given not taken, trust is given not taken, I know to give your heart to someone is very hard to do, trust is even harder, like most here I have been hurt time and time again. There is no set way to find, be in, or fall in love, love is it's own entity, you can fall in love at first sight, first words, or over long marks of time, or in long marks of miles, we all know that love can not be without trust, respect and desire for the other person, you may trust someone but not desire them, you may respect the other person but not trust them, but to have an everlasting love you have to have all three, you can't just let yourself go after you get the one you love, as a lady said to me, love is like a garden, you have to nurture it or it will not grow. So to your question as to why the lady's want to have sex talk in chat with you, that is a harder question, okay this is my opinion of the chat/video chat, and this is for you lady's as well as men, you see we guys have to pay for the chat/video chat, it is not cheap, and the way I see it we can not go on a date with you, can not take you out to dinner, or movie or well anything, so the chat/video chat is our way of being on a date, so if you are in chat/video chat with more then one person it is like going on a date with more then one person. I know it is easy to do, to be in chat/video chat with more then the one person, but remember one and all it will come out, lady's and guys are not stupid, we all can tell if we are not in chat/video chat alone with the other, and to be in chat/video chat with more then one person is very disrespectful to the other person, it shows that you have no respect for the person you are chatting to. If you don't respect them tell them and don't chat/video chat with them. Okay I know this is a long rant, but it is time for all to know. Trust, respect, honesty, desire, are the corner stones to a long lasting relationship, if you fail in any of these the relationship will not last. I may be only 43 years old but I have learned a lot about what true love is, and to be in true love you must have, trust, respect, honesty, and desire, other wise long lasting love will not happen. As to if you have found your true mate yet, that is a question that can not be answered till you meet the other person, remember this is all virtual, till you meet in real life you can not know the answer to that question, that being said, if you say to the other person "I love you", then you are making a declaration of how you feel to them, to me the words "I love you" means there is no other I would even want to talk to, and I would leave any other site I was on and only write/chat/video chat to that person, "I love you" is a very strong deregulation of ones feelings and is never to be made lightly. I want all to remember that love is all there is left in this world, money, power, fame means nothing in the end, if your heart is empty at the end then you have failed in your life, beleave me, like John Lennon said, All we need is love, well I will change that to say "We all need is love to be all we need to be"