Love in most cultures is seen as a feeling that gives meaning to life. Good parents love their children. Good husbands love their wives. Good wives love their husbands. And yet, ask people to describe what love is, and they will begin to shy away from a direct answer. If you ask ten people, you will get ten different definitions. There are many different types of love, and only one of them is true love. True love arises between people who are capable of experiencing it. They are ready to commit themselves and be faithful. They know how to be spontaneous and passionate. They are able to trust. They are ready to both give and receive. They want to stay honest and open. Love connects two independent people who go through life because they want to be together, deeply trusting and empathizing with each other. But there is a fake love that hides under different masks.
The first example of such love is when two people are closely connected, although they do not feel sincere feelings and do not value their partner. They are emotionally dependent on each other due to a number of figurative arising in early childhood. They did not trust their parents or, conversely, could not separate from them and grew up without learning independence. As adults, they are looking for a partner on whom they will depend entirely. Such people think they are in love, but this is false love.
The next kind of fake love is romantic love. A model of such a relationship is Shakespeare's play Romeo and Juliet. This is the story of lovers who burn with passion, but in fact know little about each other.
Another image of false love is when one person controls the relationship, and the other is subject to control.
A partner who dominates the relationship can be a stubborn fanatic, convinced that his views are the only true ones, or simply a self-doubtful person who always wants to be right in everything. When such a relationship is established, the dominant partner benefits from his dominance, while the second likes to be subordinate. But since there is no real closeness in the relationship, there is no balance and spontaneity, and the roles are too rigidly fixed, such a relationship is easy to break.
We also often hear people boasting that they have been married for a long time. The mere preservation of marriage for forty or fifty years is perceived by them as an incredible feat. However, with a more thorough assessment of their relationship, it is noticeable that, although the couple remains married, she does so for the wrong reasons. They continue to live together because they want to maintain the image of a “happy family”, sometimes to the detriment of their children and each other.
Sometimes people think that they are in love with each other, because both are devoted to the same idea or strongly hate the same thing. Their relationship is based is based on common beliefs, and not on real affection and devotion. Therefore, if their ideological union breaks up, their marriage will fall apart too. There is also Imaginary love. It is always unrequited love, which usually develops from a distance. A person falls in love with a certain celebrity - actor, singer, politician. He imagines that the object of his admiration has strong feelings for him. He goes to concerts and celebrity performances and is losing his head more and more. In fact, he does not know this person and does not build a real relationship with him. On the contrary, he forms an idealized image in his imagination and convinces himself that no love can be compared with that which he feel in his fantasies.
Sometimes people stay married just because they don’t want to be alone. They need a companion. They want to be seen with a satellite. They need someone who will accompany them through life. It does not matter what this person is, whether he is faithful to them .....
I often think about what love means to me. Can I Feel Real Love, Not Fake? I think that all this is very complicated and confusing....