Good day to you all!
I hope you're all well!

I had the privilege of having quite a good father.
Having a good role model is no doubt a plus.
Though still no father myself, I take advantage of that holiday to think of my father, and to remind myself of the importance of the role of a father, for a man.
After the role of husband, it has to be the most important role, for a man.
My father was a man with a mind, personality, beliefs, convictions, values, interests, tastes, likes (and dislikes) (concerning people, activities, things), qualities (traits), talents, a past, experience, maturity, an education, achievements, dreams, a heart, soul, body. He of course also had intelligence! In addition to curiosity, enthusiasm, passion!
He was good, humble, simple, open, honest, respectful, caring and loving, attentive, somewhat romantic, loyal/faithful, family oriented (valuing children, education, healthcare, family life), communicative, considerate, full of humanness, forgiving, generous, ethical (with very high ethics, valuing equity, fair play), reflective, wise, who self-actualized, refined, sensitive, protective, supportive, ambitious (with an ardent desire to achieve particular goals, to personally grow, to self-actualize, not an ardent desire for fame, power, or rank), determined, meritorious, hard studying/working, a businessman, responsible, trustworthy, playful.
Yes, quite a tough act to follow, but I try.
Raising well a girl, a boy, with care and love, giving them a good role model, aren't so easy.
But then, as for many other roles, we're not born good fathers; we can become ones, if we put ourselves to it.
With a girl, we probably will be her first role model as a man; we may determine much how she'll get to see men, in life.
It's very important that we respect her.
My father was good, loving with just about every woman, girl; he was appreciated by them all; he wasn't less caring and loving with my mother (and faithful to her, as far as I know), and my sister.
With a boy, we probably will be his first role model as a man too, which importantly means, among others, how to treat well women and girls; we may determine much how he'll get to see men, and women, in life.
It's very important again that we respect him, and that we teach him to respect women and girls, never but never hitting, hurting them (particularly physically). Why should a man never but never hit, hurt a woman (particularly physically): Very simply because a man is usually physically stronger than a woman, having then an unfair natural advantage he shouldn't use.
If a woman and a man are seriously considering conceiving, having a child, the man should then ask himself: "If we do so, if we conceive, have a baby, can I, am I ready to firmly commit to be there, with my sweetheart, for at least the next 20 years, to lovingly raise that child?" If the answer is anything less than a firm, serious Yes, then probably the man shouldn't have a baby with that woman. Very important.
As my father used to say: "Well, you had your fun. Now is the time for you to assume your responsibilities."
Conceiving, having a child is a big, irreversible step. We should keep in mind that the child isn't asked if she'd/he'd like to come to life, and have us as parents. This isn't an easy world to be born in. I think it's fair to say that every child deserves parents who love each other, and who love her/him; big advantages.
To all of you who are fathers, Warm, Happy, Meaningful, Responsible Father's Day!
To each of you who are considering becoming fathers, please think, and ask yourself: "If I do so, if I conceive, have a baby with that woman, can I, am I ready to firmly commit to be there, with that woman, for at least the next 20 years, to lovingly raise that child?" If the answer is anything less than a firm, serious Yes, then probably you shouldn't have a baby with that woman, as you don't seem ready to assume your responsibilities.
Kind regards,
Charles