Quite interesting thoughts can often be heard in discussions with readers. For example, that all families are built according to the same template. And if someone is different, then it is wrong.


But the Family is not a template or a pretty picture on Insta. It is hard work, compromise and the ability to take into account the needs of a loved one. Hear and hear each other. Each couple has their own vision of the ideal family.

When someone tells me: "Here with my husband / wife everything is like this. What's wrong with you?", I am sincerely surprised at such specialists in interpersonal relations. No, my dears, not like that. And it doesn't have to be that way. If we compare a family with sex, then the more individual and intimate the approach to this issue will be, the more pleasure both partners will get from the process. And when someone puts his family as an example to follow, it sounds something like this - "My husband / wife and I have sex like this. And what is wrong with you? Hmm ... You and your husband are making love wrong, you need to so. Like us "(it is advisable to read this in the voice of Matroskin from his monologue about Uncle Fedor and the wrong sandwich). Is it funny? And I find it funny :)

Don't look back at other people's families. Alien always looks better, more painful and more problem-free. Believe me, this is not so :) Look at yours, build your own, build with an eye on what is important to both of you, and not on what others think. "Right and wrong" is really nonsense, if in the end both are happy.

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The family is, first of all, the Union. The union of two adults, free from prejudices, personalities who are close, first of all, on a spiritual level. They are complementary. And only then there is a hierarchical division of responsibilities for men and women. As you like.

Love and take care of each other. Family is sex. May it always be bright, rich and trustingly warm :)